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Hi all
In need of some advice I'm about to breech a child arrangement order tomorrow through safeguarding issues concerning my son at his mothers address I have several ranging concerns shared by both social and the school but they seem powerless to help just keep reminding me I have pr and that means I should safeguard him myself. My son has chosen not to return home and has told myself social and school the same things. I am returning this to the courts asap but can't pay the fee until 2 days after I breech the order I should add I have proof I've tried everything and complained to everyone social school etc reference this and social are well aware I intend to do this and school have actively recommended it. Obviously I'm aware it's a serious matter to breech the order but I have no alternative choice left my son needs me to step in and say enough is enough. I currently have 50/50 I'm really worried how this is going to go down in court their are a lot of recurring issues at his mom's house and has been on child protection order then child in need was due to be discharged but they decided against it and want to re write it as old issues returned the second social stepped back. Has anyone got any experience with similar situation? How do you think court will react I'm going to request lives with order with contact on every other weekend contact for mother my son seems happy with that idea but he's only 7 I'm worried they won't take him seriously any advise or experience share on this would be so helpful I'm mega worried I'm having to take this approach
Thanks
Hi,
If you believe child is at risk of harm, or being harmed then you can suspend contact. You could make an urgent application to court to address the issues.
@bill337 hi thanks that's exactly what I'm doing I get paid this week soon as I do court application will be in I'm just concerned as depends how the judge perceives risk of harm most of the stuff my son says is emotional harm shouting and screaming anxiety over feud with next door anxiety over his brother's violent behaviour stress of living confined to bedroom locks on every door etc
I’m in a similar position as I’ve kept my young daughter having seen how drunk her mother was despite having a consent order that she mainly live with her mother. I’m applying for a temporary residence order and will argue the existing order needs reviewing given the change in circumstances to ensure her safety. Social Services advised me to keep her but I’ve been here before 2 years ago and they quickly reversed their decision so I find it hard to trust them. This time the school have made the referral to SS so I’m praying it’s going to be different.
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