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My court stuff has cost me 30k to date and it's on going, and that's up to fact finding to date. You name it I've had it.
Here's my tips.
1. You want a district judge over magistrates. So if u have district take it and don't miss the dates. They even made my ex pay half when I did a hair strand test upon my request.
2. Don't entertain yr wife's solicitor and respond to everything they say. That's how solicitors rack up the bill.
3. Its a long term game, play the game.
4. I got stuck in a contact centre after being accused of alcoholism. Tests come back fine. But in contact centre always ask for supervised reports as this will help u later in final hearing. If the reports are good the judge will side with you later down the line.
5. Try not to leave the family house, as the ex will screw you with finances later down line. It will be seen u was able to rehouse yrself and she cudnt.
6. Do single parenting courses early on off yr own back, it will show u made the effort without being asked to. There's also some others like child nutrition and first aid u can do.
7. When cafcass involved stay child focused, don't slagg of Yr ex. Stick to what u can do for the kids and explain it well.
I read your posts with tears in my eyes! I am having a similar experience to yours. I have lost faith and confidence in the broken family court too. There is no justice, the whole thing is just a joke. I hope your case is progressing positively and you are feeling better and able to see your little daughter now.
@edpacket I've done a first aid course with the Red Cross.. Its a basic one but they also do a qualified/certified course too.. Basic one (4 hours course) costs £45 and certified (2 day course) costs £150.. Link below, they may run a course near to you...
Brilliant.. I did the basic 4 hour course which was useful and gives me confidemce. I'm sure the 2 day course will be great.
In relation to parenting courses, my local council provide parenting courses via family hubs.. It might be worthwhile googling parenting courses in your area and see what comes up.. They are usually geared towards new parents however still very suitable for the majority..
All the best..
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