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Great I have added that to the cover letter in which I'm going to send to the ex with the copy of my letter to court.
Ill let you know how things go!
Ex has messaged me today suddenly after the letter must have dropped surprise surprise.
She is insisting I'm not having my daughter on my own. My order states that for the first 3 months it is supervised by mother. Currently 6 weeks into that then i get her on my own for 2 hours wednesday nights and alternating saturday/sunday all day once a week.
She is saying now that I'm never having her on my own as I'm not good enough etc etc. I have done a parenting course all of which is not necessary anyway as i am perfectly capable of looking after her!
She keeps referring to a time when i said i don't want to run around after my daughter all day. I had been out of hospital a matter of hours as i had a severe case of tonsillitis and hence didn't have the energy to chase a 18 month round.
Has she really got a leg to stand on in all this??
Not really, if the order is defined as you say, she must adhere to it. If she wants it changed she must apply to have the existing order varied. If she doesn’t abide by the order, she will be in breach and enforcement can be applied for.
Perhaps another letter pointing this out to her, if you wanted it to be more official you could pay to have a solicitors letter sent to her, to remind her of the courts stance on this and the possible penalties if enforcement is applied in the event of a breach.
If you have issue with the mother supervising contact because of her abuse, you can still make an urgent application using the C2 form as the court advised. You would be asking for contact to be supervised in a contact centre for the rest of the time, until unsupervised contact kicks in, or you can suggest a neutral family member or family friend to supervise visits.
Also, if handovers haven’t been specified in the order, once contact doesn’t have to be supervised any longer, you might want to have that addresssed too, perhaps suggesting they take place in a public place for your own safety, and hers too.
Have you heard from the police about any action they’re taking?
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