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Hi all,
I got my contact order around 6 weeks ago and for the first 3 months I must see my daughter supervised by my ex. However things the last week have took a massive turn for the worst. She asked for a lift to town and as I was busy I couldn’t take her. From this I have received waves of abuse personal abuse and comments such as I’m “no dad” again I stress because I didn’t give her a lift to town!!
In addition to this I have a video of her hitting me in my car and constant abuse. I have called the police and they should be seeing me today.
I’m completely blocked on all forms of messages and have been told I’m not seeing my daughter again!!!
Clearly this is a breach of order! I am going to write to her on Tuesday but am sure it won’t get anywhere. Would a C79 application be worth sending off for?
Thanks !!
Hi, as the contact order was only 6 weeks ago, I would try writing to the court, explain that the arrangements in the order have completely broken down already and ask them to list a new hearing. They might, or they might not. If they don't, then yes submit a C79.
Thanks for your reply and help!
I have drafted up a quick letter and was wondering if this is ok to send to the court?
Dear Sir or Madam,
I’m writing to you regarding the recent contact order in place for my daughter X
The order has been in place for around 6 weeks however, is not being followed by Miss Y. All forms of contact between myself and my X have been stopped by Miss Y breaching the current order. In addition to this I have been blocked on all forms of communication and have no way of contacting Miss Y.
This is following a series of physical, verbal and written abuse that I have received from Miss Y. The police have been informed.
As a result I would like to request that a hearing could be listed for the above issues to be resolved at the earliest possible opportunity, in order for the order to be enforced and to reinstate the relationship between X and myself.
A copy of this letter has been sent to Y
Yours Sincerely
Regards the abuse I have received some rathe nasty messages recently, been hit in my car in front of my daughter and received abuse in public. I have a recording of the abuse on one occasion and it can clearly show my ex hitting me. The police are coming to speak to me Friday regarding this.
Thanks again
That's kind of veering into giving evidence territory. Go with a simple 'the mother has completely suspended contact, she refuses to discuss the matter, and there have been incidents involving the police. As the previous proceedings only concluded XXX weeks ago, I am politely requesting that the matter is restored to court as soon as possible'
You don't need any more than that really. Less is more when writing to a court......If they say no, then put your C79 in
Best of luck
Thanks as always for your help!
Regarding where i send the letter do I just post it to the actual magistrates court I attended or is there a central "main" court that i should be sending the letter to. I used a solicitor first time something I badly regret!
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