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Title for impact... not where my thoughts are... But concern for others...
At a recent court hearing, I was told by the District Judge, in a rather blunt manner that.....:
"the stepdaughter (14) is more important than the father to the biological daughter (4) - because its expected that the children will out live the parents..."
I can understand the message, even if its presumed rather than factual .. but the manner it was delivered, was so blunt arguably rude, that, I could see parents not just fathers taking there lives...
is this really how the law is...? - destroying a person....?
hi,
you have made multiple posts about this. i dunno. some times there are ridiculous outcomes at court. there are other dads who were told that they are not allowed to see their kids, but only send them letters.
i know you are passionate about your stepdaughter, but I think you need to move on for your own sanity. maybe some day your stepdaughter will just move in with you.
I get your point totally, and agree with there is often ridiculous outcomes, there is a big difference in seeing what goes on every day, and living it.. As much as I appreciate that the law needs to remain without emotional attachment..
But this posts point was in relation to delivery of message.. we are all human, good or bad, still human, but there is a way to explain a situation to another person..
for example:
"The Law sets out that its better to keep siblings together irrespective of being half-sibling, step-sibling, because its felt to be in the best interest of the child to unless proven otherwise..."
or
"One sibling is of more important to the other, than the parent, because those children are expected to outlive the parents.."
my point is there is a hand hammer, then there is a sledgehammer.....
I've changed the title of the topic, we take these matters seriously and we have had dads on here who have been at that point, so we need to be careful of the language we use on here.
Thank you, its very easy to become very single minded - thanks for adjusting my oversight and lack of consideration..
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