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Hi guys, need a bit of direction as to my next move :/
Basically ive been having contact with my 6yr old son during the interim period. The social worker has filed her report prior to the next hearing next week. She has told me that my son is at no risk under his mothers care and that he is happy and wants to live with his mother.
This is great as far as im concerned, ive noticed a massive improvement since the ss have become involved. My son is always clean, cared for, attends school everyday and its obvious the ss involvement was the shot in the arm my sons mother needed!. However i will be vigilant, as im not convinced that this will always be the case as the ss get less involved.
Ive applied for a childs arrangements order. My sons mother would often stop contact on a whim. It would always be about her, not the best interests of our son. Inbetween her whims, tantrums and mood swings i would have contact of as often as 3 overnight stays per week and would often collect my son from school. However, in the ss report, the social worker is recomending that contact stays as it has been during the interim, which is EVEN LESS than the contact i had prior to the ss involvement!. My parenting has never been a cause for concern or issue, its been me thats gone through all the correct avenues and fought for my son when CAFCASS slaughtered her, and the police referred her to the SS!. My sons mother has made it obvious to the ss that she doesnt want me to have contact purely out of spite, not turned up to court, not stuck to the contact arrangements during the interim period and she gets the benefit of the doubt every time!.
I really feel like im hitting my head against a brick wall. Im sure at court next week, i will get as the ss worker recomended at the very most!.
How can they possibly let there be less contact than before ? Its just outrageous !
Ultimately, it's up to the court to decide on what they believe is in the best interests of children involved - they will take the SS report into account, but in your position, I would certainly be arguing for the original contact to be reinstated.
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