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Hi, this is my first time on here. My Dilema is that my first child, doesn't have my name on his Birth Certificate as his Das, his name is Xxxx Xxx Burgess Xxxxxxx. My surname being 'Burgess'. Recently my ex threatened to change his name to her re-married name and suggested he was going on BC.
I pay maintenance as all good fathers do, or do under the circumstances they are presented with.
I had said payment needs to drop because I now have 2nd child who I need to support which is where the argument started.
I want on the BC but she is totally against and I have no idea, I think its because she is afrod I stop her doing something which is totally untrue.
We have sine come to an arrangement over payments and his name change, but I'm still no on his BC.
I'm keeping quiet till things settle down and then bring the subject up again once I can afford do.
Is anyone out these with a similar situation to myself with any suggesions?? 🙁
Hi there
The issue you have over inclusion on the BC is more common than you'd think.
There are steps you can take, the first would be mediation which is now compulsory and must be undertaken before any court action.
Here's a link to the mediation service
www.nfm.org.uk
Legal Aid is still available for mediation and you can check eligibility here
www.gov.uk/check-legal-aid
I have taken the liberty of editing your sons name out of your post for your own protection. It's better not to include personal details that can be traced and used against you.
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