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I don't want to be named on a birth certificate. The mother (WE are not married) is saying she can just put me on.
What's to stop her? I know I Have to attend in person but what's to stop her just taking a random mate and them saying they are me?
This is a major loophole you don't have to ever go on there but you can organize the authorities to get involved if you think fraud is taking place ,you can also get a parental resposibilty order from court if you wish to have rights but not put your details down
She could easily bring a mate with her if you have concerns i would ring your local registry and give the mothers details and future motives and that will give her a red flag the minute she goes to book the registry
That's crazy. So pretty much she could put anyone's name on the certificate.
I don't know where she is having it so it could be any number of places she would register.
I'm more concerned about not having my name on it as I don't want any responsibility for it.
Bit harsh!
You're talking about an innocent child, which you and the mother created equally. It's only right that you take some financial responsibility for providing for the little one.
To clarify, you have to attend to be named on the birth certificate and even if you're not named, that won't make any difference to the Chld Maintenance Service, if she opens a claim against you.
If you dispute parentage, you will have to pay for a DNA test, but will still be expected to pay maintenance until the result is in.... if you're not the father at that point, you can ask to be reimbursed, if you are the father you will have to pay until the child is 16 or up to 20 if they remain in education.
I was not asking about financial responsibility. So please keep that out.
I'll ask the question differently.
What is stop any man from going with the mother and putting my name on the cert?
Do you need to take ID e.g. passport or driving licence?
She is saying she will get her friend or brother to go and write my name down.
I suspect she is winding you up. I would let it happen and see if you are named, and if so, then report it. I don't see there's any advantage to her to name you, it doesn't make any difference to any maintenance claim she may make against you. If she was going to commit fraud to put you on the certificate, then she could forge a declaration of parentage from you and no need to take anyone down with her.
Why don't you want to be put on the birth certificate?
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