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[Solved] Battling On Court For Over Two Years

 
(@yellowbackpacker)
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Hello to all and thanks for sharing!

My estranged wife walked away heavily pregnant and with our other two lovely kids last mid 2013. Not the first time! Actually not the second either.

We had a few meetings after two to three months but she didn't changed her mind. Tired of her behaviour, I did what the social service told me to. I got a solicitor. My first biggest mistake!
The first person who dealt with my case told me that "The court deals with family's matters much faster than other cases"
I already went to around five court hearings. (the first one was the worst. I got to see she without the mask and to know all the lies that she was able to say)
The first proof hearing was cancelled because their offered four supervised meetings with the two youngsters followed by a report.
At that point I already lost my oldest! You see, between the last time I saw my children, (two to three months after they were taken away. On a pretty normal family day out in Falkirk that ended with my oldest been upset to have to say goodbye to myself) and the request from the sheriff for a psychologist report. My estranged wife had around six months to "get things sorted". So, now that beautiful and lovely six years old child would not tell people about the great day out in Falkirk or the previous two meetings with her daddy at the local library or anything else but the nightmares that she has been having. "A giant octopus with wings that tries to take mommy away from her". The use of amazing and complicated words on her testimonials always make friends of mine to ask me the same question: "How old is your child when she was interviewed?"

Well, you would say that at least I got the contact with the two youngsters! But I've been warned about theses contacts by others.
One father described it as: "A waste of money. And very confusing for parents and children"
The four visits were supposed to be completed in around two months! Fortnight visits. But it took around four months to the end of it. Twice I've came to the centre only to find out that my estranged wife called to tell that the kids couldn't make because they were sick!
And if you need to change one of the meetings time make sure you get a physical proof of it!
The report were supposed to be done after the fourth and last meeting. It was done by the third! After I've only spend three hours with my four years old child and another twenty minutes with my two years old child, who was induced to go back to her mother by the centre's supervisor.

At the first child welfare hearing after the contacts, my estranged wife and her solicitor were hoping the sheriff would read the report and decided on her favour but instead the sheriff got intrigued with her abruptly change of mind. At this time she wouldn't allow me to see the kids anymore!
So a second proof hearing were appointed.

The second proof hearing was cancel just minutes before start as they again offered another four monitored visits with another report at the end! It'll happen at the same centre where the first report was resumed with the following phrase: "Father and children have no strong bond!"
Also the first report described that my two years old child cried during one of our meetings. (I never saw my two years old child cry or even talk! )

Could anybody give me some hope? Some Advice?

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Topic starter Posted : 15/03/2016 6:43 pm
 Mojo
(@Mojo)
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Hi there

As you are in Scotland it might be helpful for you to give the Scottish Childrens Legal Centre a call, they offer free legal advice. Here's a link

www.sclc.org.uk

You might also benefit from attending a Families Need Fathers meeting in your area, you will get face to face advice and support. As you probably know, the family law system in Scotland is different to the law here in England, but we will try and support you where we can.

Here's a link to FNF Scotland

www.fnfscotland.org.uk/support/

Here's a link to the FNF webpage where you will find details of the meetings in Scotland

www.fnf.org.uk/help-and-support-2/local-branch-meetings

Best of luck

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Posted : 16/03/2016 12:34 am
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