[Solved] Banned from involvement in daughters education

Here's a link that might help

http://www.thecustodyminefield.com/flapp/preducation.html

If you don't get any joy with these steps, it's probably worth paying for a one off solicitor's letter to the school

Hello jerry,

I am wondering if this is because it is a private school. The mother is paying the fees, therefore the contract is between the school and her. Consequently she is in a position to "call the shots" which is what she appears to be doing.

Interestingly you say, quote, "ex wife ordered them not to communicate with me regarding anything to do with my daughters education, until I would pay the school fees."
Is your wife short of money to pay the fees and expecting you to pay or contribute and until you do, ordering the school not to communicate with you?

Thanks for the link.
Unfortunately it does not mention situations involving private schools, as I believe fee paying schools might have different rules...
I will look further into this situation though.
Thanks again.
Jerry

Thanks for your reply MotherofaFather.
I think you are right, private schools do have different rules, although the schools policy still states that every parent has the right to be involved regardless of
who pays the fees.
This complete U-turn by the headmistress without any good reason and declining any discussions with me ,is very baffling and I find it hard to believe
that the school would be bullied after 3 years, by my ex, into suddenly banning me from all involvement when I have always been actively involved and really got on with all teachers very well.
It obviously is a financial matter. The fees are actually paid by ex wifes parents... their decision ...
But why put daughter into private school if they can't really afford it..
I certainly can't.
Daughter doesn't even like the school and her marks have slipped far below average...
I just don't really know who to turn to , to get answers and resolve this matter.

Thanks,
Jerry

It might be worth giving the child law centre a call and get some free legal advice - www.childrenslegalcentre.com - I can't see that a contract makes any difference, it can't override family law.

Hello jerry,

I agree with actd's comment, quote, "..... it can't override family law."

If the headmistress and staff are not conversant with family law then I can see how the financial contract would influence them which I think it is possibly doing.
By doing what actd advises and after finding out where you stand legally, you could then consider the possibility of approaching the board of governors / trustees about the situation or preferably take an alternative course of action that is advised by a professional conversant in family law.

It appears to be a case of educating the educators.

Thanks actd,
I will look into this today!

Thanks, Motherofafather.
I thought about contacting the board of governors until I realised the headmistress is one of them;-)

I am also frustrated that my ex can just have me banned like this…although we have shared custody...whatever will she do next….
I will contact the Childrenlegalcentre and hopefully get some advise;-)
Will let you know what happens….
Jerry

Your daughter's school needs some guidance on the legal position. The fact they have a contract with the mother doesn't affect their obligations to all parties with Parental Responsibility. It's definitely worth a letter from a solicitor.