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Hi Guys,
I hope you’re all as well as you can be considering.
after 8 years of finding this site I’ve been through around 20 family court hearings and 2 linked criminal court hearings, 3 actual cases with the final hearing from the latest case last aug.
would you believe it but I’m back been stopped from seeing my child. I literally can’t fight no more I’ve done as much as humanly possible to be there for my child.
it’s come to the point where my poor child receives the most horrific mental abuse the more she sees me. It’s also come to the point where I could lose everything now I’ve got a record.
im not walking away but I’m taking a step aside for a while and concentrating on myself for the first time in 9 years.
over the past 9 years I have helped many people and friends through the court process and I’ve found I can’t take my own [censored] advice.
anyway I thought I’d post up and offer some advice to you guys comparing it to my situation.
The ex has turned my family against me so I haven’t spoke to any of them for over 10 months so I haven’t got much support there.
it would be nice if you guys could offer some advice to my situation as I can’t really speak to peeps about things.
take care
slim 😃
I would just like to say how gutted Ivan that Nannyjane is no longer with us. She was the first to answer my post on here 8 years ago and helped me through the first 6 years of court.
a lovely lady who will be sorely missed x
I'm very sorry to hear your difficulties. It sounds as though you could do with some counselling - do you have contacts near you?
@champagne funny you should say that because a counselling service I contacted 18 months ago has just phoned up today and I’m booked in for my first session later this week 😃
Hi Slim
Sorry to hear your situation has gotten worse again. You gave me some good advice when I first joined..
How old is child? Why has contact been stopped again?
Looking after your mental health is important, consider speaking to local mental health support or your GP.
Keep in mind why you started down this road all those years ago, it will still be true now.
@Daddyup hi mate thanks for the reply, she’s made it impossible to stick to the court order that she pretty much wrote, as it states I have to pic up at 3pm from school wed and Fridays, the company I’ve been subbing too have been great for the past 7 months with half days full days off to collect her. I’ve just been moved to another contract which is strictly 10 hours a day so I simply can’t get back in time. She will not let her go to the usual pick up point after school and so I can collect her later. It’s like I have to make the choice of career or being a dad. Yeah finally after 18 months of trying I’ve finally got some counselling starting Friday. Tbf I am actually in a pretty good place, nowhere near how bad I’ve been over the past 2 years. I had a bit of hypnosis that worked wonders.
Hi Slim
Sad that you're back here under these circumstances. I think the counselling is a good first step, and you definitely need to focus on yourself.
In the long run, you have built up a good relationship with your child, and that's always going to be there, so in the future, that will still be there whatever the mother does.
@actd thanks mate I’ve just finished my second counselling session and it’s working wonders. I’m getting my fight back, filled out a c100, applied for a non mol, applied for PR on my step daughter, I’m blessed to have the most amazing support this time. Peeps have really rallied round.
a close friend has been stopped from seeing his baby so I helped him last week with his c100 and he helped me with mine today. I’ve just spent 14 hours through the night battling with CMS and the psycho ex and got the email that nothing has changed, that scum tried to say I have my child once every 2 weeks and they didn’t buy it. Above all it’s took me two years to get my child’s head straight after the abuse inflicted during the pandemic and they seem to be back to the care free child they once was this weekend. I’m allot more chilled this time round so Let’s see what happens.
Slim, sorry to hear this, 20 hearings!! I had 4 in 2 years and that for me was enough, I went it alone and used a direct access barrister, If and when you do decide to take your ex to court PM me I know of two decent barristers who will go out their way to help you, and won't cost the earth. Few £k at the most, is what I paid. Saved me tens of thousands, I got burnt with one solicitor so knew I would get exactly the same outcome, with or without one.
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