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Ok so a contact session tonight which meant my ex collecting son after school. She was late, rung my wife who does the handovers to say that she was going to be an extra 10 minutes late. Given the fact of the current weather and we had already been stood there ten minutes she told the ex that we would retreat inside as it was so cold.
Wife texted ex and asked her to meet somewhere close, we had gone in to a shop to keep warm. Saw her arrive, went outside the shop where we were met by ex being aggressive. She was shouting at my wife that she hates her, is going to kill her, she is pathetic etc. Anyway, ex hit my wife. Full on punch in the face. We have called police and they have taken statements. Thing is our son was with us and saw everything.
How do I stand with future contact? I don't think it's appropriate ex sees him but legally is this a good enough reason to withhold contact?
Son is upset and was clearly distressed with what Mum had done to his step mum who he adores.
Hi There,
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I would contact SS and discuss, that isn't going to go too wel for her, were there witnesses to her attack? as it was in a public place it may be worth trying to get some CCTV you could check to see if any of the local shops had any footage.
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GTTS
Hi, thanks for replying. The police have confirmed that the shop had CCTV and it was caught on that so that is a good thing.
I will contact SS 🙂
Hi there
How traumatic for you all...I would write directly to the judge, and tell them what has happened. State that your son is now deeply upset as he witnessed the assault, and your wife is too frightened to facilitate further contact. Ask if it would be possible to return to court immediately for urgent new directions, or advice on how you should proceed regarding contact, as whilst you don't want to breach the interim order you feel that your son and wife need to be protected from any further distress.
I think you would be within your rights to suspend contact and if you decide to do this I would advise you put it in writing to her solicitor with the reasons why you have had to make this decision, if you write to the court you can also tell her solicitor that you have done this and provide them with a copy. Don't allow them to bully you, they will probably try!
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