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Wife and I had a bust up two weeks ago, I got covered in lumps and bruises protecting my self, she got a small bruise to the back of her head near her ear, can't say for sure how, she'd just woke me up at 1am for this argument. 7hrs later after going back to bed the police turn up and arrest me for assault. Go to court in 6 weeks, she's made a pack of lies up about me with the aid of the police, it looks like she's had an affair (that was what the argument was over) but won't admit to it and this looks like her get out plan from the relationship. I packed in work and became a full time dad for my daughter 6 yrs ago, for a few months, then did a few bits and bobs and our son came along 3yrs ago. I stopped all my work because my wife was struggling to cope, I did every bit of housework inside and out, everything for the kids from breakfast and school to pick up and tea and clubs after and in-between. For the last 6 months my wife started back work full time and we agreed she would work and I'll play daddy day care. Now I've been kicked out the house with nowhere to go (currently on friends couch) and no money. She will be completely unable to do her job and look after the kids at the same time even with a lot of support from her parents. Social service now involved and I'm hoping to get an hours supervised visit after missing the kids for over 2 weeks. Any ideas or advice greatly appreciated.
Hi there
I'm sorry to hear you're having such a hard time.
You say that your hoping to get an hours supervised visit, has this been stated by Social Services? If you can get supervised contact started, it's a step in the right direction. Unfortunately, while this assault case is looming, it wouldn't be advisable to start the process of getting some regular contact.
Usually the first step would be mediation to try and sort out contact with the children, it due to the allegations made against you, mediation wouldn't be appropriate. The best thing you can do right now is to try and get supervised contact set up, see what happens with the assault case and once that is over, start the process of contact via the courts.
In the meantime it would be a good idea to get yourself in employment, getting yourself on your feet as quickly as you can will send out the right message to the authorities.
All th best
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