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I am new to the forum and any help will be grateful for any support I can get. In a nutshell, my son was taken from his mom in 2010 by Social Services and was placed in voluntary custody with his maternal grandmother without my consent.
This is despite having Parental Responsibility from the family courts and living 10 minutes from my son's mom. My pleas to have my son live with me have been ignored. At first their excuse was I could not look after my son because I was working then they stated that he will be going back to his mother soon. All this time I was paying my son's mom Child Support of £500 a month for a child she did not have, despite having been in my son's life all his life.
Now in 2014 my son is still at maternal grandmother's house and last weekend on Saturday 20th October I had my son from 2pm - 4 pm as arranged by Social Services. My son's birthday was on 18th September therefore decided to take him for lunch and buy him an outfit of clothes. Before I even reached the shops with my son I was abducted by police without being given a reason. My rights were only read at the Police Station. Where I was also informed that I had been arrested for kidnapping, child endangerment and resisting arrest. I lost the whereabouts of my son during the abduction. I was released the same day and currently out on bail.
I have no legal or non legal restrictions to see my son therefore I am pleading for advice as I am on the verge of suicide. I have even appealed to the Chief Executive of my Council in March 2014 and have yet to receive a reply despite acknowledging receipt of my emails.
Please see link below.
Kind Regards
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zt1dj4mfa-g
uk police violently arrest man taking son shopping
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Jesus christ!!! I hope someone can offer you some advice as I'm not that cued up on what you should do but first and foremost get that idea of suicide right out your head that will be good for no one especially your son, At the end of the day you have been arrested like many dads have on here over the most trivial of things and I'm sure it wont do you too much damage with regards to seeing your son.
What stage are you at with the courts? have they made an order? are you represented?
Try not to worry this will be sorted out sooner or later all courts promote a father having contact with his child, what have social services said about the situation? has contact been stopped? whats the state of play now?
Hi there
I guess the police will argue that as they considered a child's safety to be at stake they took direct action to remove the perceived threat (you) from the equation. Horrible for you and your son and I would certainly be thinking of making an official complaint about the police handling of this.
You say that you were on contact that had been arranged with Social Services, did they place any contact restrictions upon you such as staying with your son in a certain place for the duration of the contact? Do you know who made the report to the police that you had kidnapped and endangered your child?
If there were no contact restrictions placed upon you and you were free to take your son unsupervised for the 2 hour visit then you need to find out who reported you. If it was the SS then you need to go to the manager and higher to make your complaint in the strongest terms. If it was the maternal grandmother then she must have lied to the police and this would be something I would pursue with the police.
As far as contact with your son, it's outrageous that you are being denied the right to look after him. Unfortunately the care system can fail the children in its care and their parents. It might be helpful to contact the Family Rights group, they have a free phone helpline. Here's a link
...and also to attend a Families Need Fathers meeting in your area. Here a link to their webpage where you will find details of meetings in your area. You will get plenty of advice and support and get to meet other parents in a similar situation to yourself.
www.fnf.org.uk/help-and-support-2/local-branch-meetings
I notice you have written to the Chief Executive and haven't received proper response since March...IMO you should go,straight to your MP and ask them to help.
Best of luck with it all and keep talking...you are not alone!
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