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Hi guys
i need a little bit of advice...
My wife and I separated last year we own a house together. At the moment we live in our respective parents homes and rent out our joint property to cover the bills and mortgage.
I have paid the loan and credit card we have for the past five months. And I gave her £500 when we first split as she is taking care of our daughter. Apart from this I have bought her groceries for the past five months and my parents have paid for most of my daughters new clothes etc.
Suddenly this week my wife has decided she doesn't want my parents to look after our daughter after nursery and on weekends and instead she wants to pay a nanny to do all these hours instead (which would cost around £250 pw) as I didn't agree she has now handed in her resignation at work and has said she wants to move back in to our house and she will not pay anything to the mortgage or loans or credit card and default on them all so I am forced into bankruptcy or at very least not able to get another mortgage/loan etc - she says she will be ok as the council will have to house her as she has a baby.
She says the courts will be on her side if I try to stop her as they will want my daughter to have a roof over her head.
Surely as she is planning to ruin me I have the right to say that we will sell the house instead, pay off the loans and mortgage and have around £12k each at the end of it?
Please help, I don't know what to do!
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