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If your mutual friend can speak to your wife and get her to agree, it would be helpful before contacting the court. You could then say that through a trusted third party, you have both managed to agree a way forward, and to avoid further hearings, would both like to ask if an undertaking without guilt would be acceptable by the court.
When. Is the next hearing?
I'm under a lot of pressure right now and the mutual friend is away on holiday. I have been asked many times to accept it and today I sent an email to the court saying I do not contest. The thing in my mind is that if I delay or contest, she will want nothing to do with me.
I thank you guys for your advice earlier. It's just a [censored] poor situation that I have never been in and can't deal with. I'm going out of my mind.
If you accept it you will be accepting that you are guilty of whatever it is she has put in her application to get the Non-Mol against you.....if you are or have done any of those things then fine accept it.
If you go back home all she'll have to do is call the police regardless of if you are speaking with her nicely or not and they will arrest you as she has a Non-Mol against you.
If you accept it i can almost guarantee you'll regret it in the coming months.
Have a read of some of the following on the subject:
https://www.dad.info/forum/legal-eagle/42171-served-ex-parte-non-molestation-order
https://www.dad.info/forum/legal-eagle/45552-just-got-back-from-non-molestation-hearing
https://www.dad.info/forum/legal-eagle/50091-nmo
https://www.dad.info/forum/legal-eagle/48794-non-molestation-order-help-please
https://www.dad.info/forum/legal-eagle/49474-non-molestation-order-against-ex-girlfriend
You can still ask for an undertaking once in court, did you mention it in the email?
It’s a pity you have been put under such pressure, as Dad-i-d says, you accept the non mol and its an acceptance of guilt, fine if you are, not so good if not.
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