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Hi this is my first time posting and am quite upset so hope there is some advice out there for me.
On New Years Eve my partner of 5years told me out of the blue she wanted me to leave. We have a 4 year old son whom I adore. She gave me no reason for the split just said she didn't love me any more and wanted me to move out of our jointly rented home.
She suffers from depression so I gave it a couple if days and tried to discuss it with her but she refuses to talk. She kept telling me to leave and I explained reasonably that I was jointly on the tenancy agreement, had nowhere to go, did not want to leave my son, could not afford to go having just paid the bills for the coming month. She then threatened me saying she would call the police if I did not go and would tell them I had hit her and that would make me get out. She also started sending threatening text messages to my mother saying I was 'pissing her off' by not leaving and that if I didn't leave she would call the police.
I then said I like to have my son live with me. to be honest as she has been quite unstable in the last couple of weeks and I have recorded some of the things she has said. Her own mother said she is 'messed up'. She has changed her hair colour, clothing style and had her tongue pierced all in the space of 5 days. She gets quite irritable with our son and spends hours on the sofa texting on her phone.
It now transpires she has been seeing someone else behind my back hence the split. I don't know much about him except he is also a depression sufferer, a pretty random bit of information for her to tell me!
Today around 11am I was due to meet a mate for a chat as this has been getting me down. As I was leaving she said I had to take our son with me as if not she was going to meet her new boyfriend and would take our son with her to meet him too. I took my son out with me but when I got back she was still out. Later this evening I got a text from her saying she was staying the night with this man and would be back in the morning. She only works part time on Thursday and Friday but I work full time and I have to leave for work at 7.30 in the morning.
Sorry for the long post but does anyone think I have a chance to get custody?. I could change my work hours to get him to nursery etc and her behaviour is upsetting him as well as me. I feel she is rubbing my nose in it and doesn't care about our son by staying out as she did.
Thanks for any advice
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