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Hi Forum,
To cut a long story short... My Ex-wife remarried and has fallen ill. Her illness may kill her or leave her mentally disabled. My son's Step Father is aplying for Parental Rights and i'm not sure i like it. I'm not sure i want custody at this stage but should i be scared? I don't want the Step Father taking total control of my son.
Any advice would be much appreciated.
Jules.
Hi there
It's a difficult one. I think you have to ask yourself what is best for your son. If the step father has been in his life for a long time and they have a close relationship it might be a good thing, especially as you are not sure you want custody.
If your son is old enough I think you should sit down and talk about what he would like to happen. I would also suggest that you sit down with the step father and talk everything through.
It must be a very hard time for your son and his step father, having to deal with the very real prospect of losing a mother and wife, I think it would be best to approach the whole situation with sensitivity and kindness.
I agree with NJ - if you think about it, if you aren't able to take your son back, and your ex is either not there, or mentally impaired, then how can the step father properly look after your son if he can't make binding decisions. If he does get PR, it doesn't remove yours so it would be a matter of hopefully agreeing what is best, but ultimately if he is the parent with care, he must be able to make decisions.
...the best scenario would be for you and the step father to work together to give your son the love and support he needs.
The mothers best prognosis is still one that will have a deep impact on your son because regardless o f the outcome here he will have lost his mother.
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