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hi all
I need advice please help
I filed a SPO in july to change school for my mixed race children twins at the time aged 4, the day off hearing was 3 and kids due to start school on 4th, for some reason the judge didn't deal with the issue and referred judgement till December 14 2012, the issue was that I have mixed race kids and and my ex sent them to a all white Christian school but didn't tell me she had changed the schools from the agreed one which was more multicultural.
she told the judge and in her statement that the original school was over subscribed and that this was the second choice. I contacted the education authority and they confirmed to me that my ex sent a email asking for the current school to be put in first place and our chosen school in second.
the same judge who dealt with the December 14th hearing decided to reside over my shared residence order which was a month later, I lost the case even though judge completely ignored my evidence that it is better for kids of mixed race to go to a more mixed school.
I have another set of twins who are going to the school, my kids are having problems within them selves trying to please there peers and thinking who they are white indian Christian Sikh, social serices were involved a week after I won shared residence my ex accused me of locking them up in a storeroom and burning my non verbal daughter with cigs( I don't smoke), they wrote in there report there were cultural issues and children may have identity issues in the future.
My question is is it too late to appeal a specific issues because ex lied and social services issues with identity. it has been over a year now since the court judgement.
I am thinking of using a human rights act on religion and diversity in the appeal if I can do one.
the other problem is the school is not very father friendly and have decided to not give me the kids enrolment forms for my youngest twins even though they have been told to by the council to do so. this is because they are supporting the mother and know I intend to go back to court.
any questions please ask any help would be great.
Hi There, 1st of all great name 🙂
A bit confused; is your question about obtaining an order to change schools for your older children on particular legal grounds? If so, it probably requires corum clc to advise legally.
Personally, I would ask myself if it was in the best interest of the children to change their existing environment e.g. school friends, teachers, other external existing relationships, in preference of uprooting them to somewhere else; starting again to build new relationships.
Your second to last paragraph confuses me, do you want to enrol your younger children in the same school that you want you older children to be changed from?
If that is the case, it can't be a bad school after all...
Appeals can only be made up to 21 days after the decision was made that you wish to appeal, so in your circumstances you would have to submit a fresh application.
I looked through your previous posts and you were quite happy with the schooling your twins were receiving a few months ago. What's changed?
If children are having identity issues then it is up to both parents to ensure that they are educated about both cultures....as you have shared residence it would be up to you to teach them about your culture and religion when they are with you. Generally problems arise when a child of mixed race is denied access to one half of their cultural heritage.
I find it very difficult to believe that a school in this country in this day and age is completely white, is it a Church of England assisted school? Even so I imagine that tolerance to all religions will be practiced in all schools.
the school is all white and Christian the school is 3 or 4 miles away from ex house outside town in a small village. the school is very one sided and does not promote other cultures.
the other school I wish them to go to is more mixed and I now some of the parents their and the kids should fit in quickly. .
my kids are starting to ask questions and since they started going to the school they have started to reject my culture a little, im pretty sure its because they feel they wont fit in, last year none of their friends came to their birthday party I organised but they went to the exes she organised. my son asked if it was because I am brown and mums white.
I don't really want my kids to grow up like that. its a small village school so my ex has already done story telling and no one really talks to me because they believe all her stories. this in turn gives a bad impression to the kids on top of all this my ex has family members who attend the school and they have started saying things to the kids about me. one day my son came home crying because he said no one likes my daddy. I don't think these issues would be present in a more mixed school.
this is regarding all my kids.
I don't think it should be up to me to teach them about my culture in my time when they have been sent to a school against my wishes. also they wont be able to make friends with kids of different cultures or religions for the next 5 years because which to me is not very good for them in the future as my ex is not very positive about them learning anything from me,
the family are quit racist and don't mind using certain words in front of the kids.
the whole situation is abit [censored] really,
If children are having identity issues then it is up to both parents to ensure that they are educated about both cultures....as you have shared residence it would be up to you to teach them about your culture and religion when they are with you.
Hey Mate,
I agree with NannyJane's comment above.
You are in a great position with shared residency; you both (as parents) can teach your children to respect the beauty of both cultures & ways.
With this kind of thinking - both your younger & older children can benefit I believe.
I will say no more other than wishing you/ your children the very best.
thanks any way guys, i probably will go for a SPO order again has i have already put their names down on a new school which is more diverse.
let you know how it goes
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