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Hi can anyone give me advice ppl on hear will know my situation that i have indirect contact through cafcass to take cards to my child to read and encourage child to reply and also as i said feed back to me .ive told cafcass to email me feed back as i dont wanna fall in trap and speak on phone for cafcass to make up lies about myself so ive text twice in one month asking for feed back but cafcass officer is ignoring me but when officer wasnt going to be at court two weeks ago the officer text me to say to say that cafcass officer wouldnt be at court so the cafcass officer can text me about stuff they wanna let me know but just dont give me any feed back from taking cards for my child if i bring this up in court the judge reminds cafcass to give me feed back but nothing happens so if i text them too much they say am obsessive so for nine months out of sending two cards a month to child ive had one bit of feed back and that was january\feb so now i dont know what to do .it feels like the more i chase it up it goes against me /but if i where not to give a [censored] they just forget about you and im a father that does give a [censored] but at the moment i cant win miss my daughter so much wish i could just pick her up from school and just go do something fun like the park .role on psychologist hopefully he can be the light thru all this dark times so fed up .
You could send a formal letter to Cafcass asking for a response, and if not satisfied, you can follow their complaint procedure. The other option is to raise it at court and ask for it to form part of any interim orders?
Howdy 1234homeland,
I know this is easier said than done - but keep charting the course, and as best you can, keep your spirits high for you and your child.
100% agree with Yoda re: getting an official letter in when needed (even do recorded delivery if you can and keep the receipt for court etc).
If you feel it is appropriate based on your own circumstance, you may just want to put a short message first to your assigned CAFCASS officer along the lines of:
'I appreciate you may be busy and working on other cases, but just wanted to know what is the right amount of contact for you - I would hate to bombard you with messages for updates, so if we can agree on a schedule it may help us both. If it helps, I have a suggestion of XXXXX but let me know if we need to increase/reduce that amount'.
Something like this will remind CAFCASS of your concern without being critical of their role.
Whilst CAFCASS do not have the final say, my experience personally has been that the court does place emphasis on their reports etc. so if you can come across wherever possible as a concerned but reasonable, caring parent this will all help.
Hope it all goes well mate.
Concerned Daddy.
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