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Hi,
My child is now approaching a year old, me and mum weren't together at the time of the pregnancy and aren't now.
She's refused to add me on the birth certificate or give me parental responsibility, however hasn't stopped me seeing the child but i have to travel hundreds of miles round trips every other weekend to see the child. I don't believe she has any intention of allowing me and the child to spend proper quality time together, or for there to be overnight/weekend stays in due course.
I was there when the child was born, have clocked up nearly 10,000 miles driving, paid my maintenance every week since the day the child was born and spend many many nights in paid accommodation so my commitment is undoubted.
I'm at my wits end with trying to resolve the birth cert and getting PR without going down a legal channel however know that if i do that the pin is pulled forever.
She's flatly refusing to discuss the BC again and states her decision is made. What should i do? Suggest mediation? Any other suggestions?
Thank you
Hi,
If she is refusing then only option may be to take legal route, such as seeking a parental responsibility order.
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