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Been ordered by court to have family psychologist to help us all me my child and ex as all attemps to restart contact has failed and really this is my last chance for a family psychologist to get to the bottom of it and make a recommendation how contact should proceed .in a nut shell my ex has brainwashed daughter supervised contact was ordeded but ex didn't bring child and is making it really hard to have any type of contact only indirect contact so far for one year cafcass have a pointed child guardian and child has own solicator me and ex both represent our self's so far ex getting away with all sorts my question is can a psychologist help our situation and will he spot straight away that ex is the one brainwashing my child or will it just be pointless really at breaking point so stressful but will never give up does anyone one have any similar experiences with family psychologist?
Hi
In my case the court ordered a psychiatric assessment and the report filed a couple on months later. Prior to the report, contact was never established and when arranged by the children's guardian, it was interfered with by the mother.
The report identified the mother and her partner were alienating the children. As a result, the judge ordered a section 37 report to be completed by social services to establish whether the children were at risk of emotional abuse.
The bottom line, things moved quickly after the psych report and unsupervised contact began as little as three months later.
Hang in there and you'll see that any brainwashing is quickly undone. In my case social services remained involved for months after to ensure things went to plan..
Good luck
I haven't had any experience of the way a court ordered psychologist might work I'm afraid. Hopefully they will be able to highlight the ex's hostility and her attempts to alienate your child from you.
At the end of the day though, you can have lots of good reports, but if the court won't take a strong stand with your ex, it might just be more of the same.
Sometimes though, a case can seem to be going badly and then at the final hearing, when all of the evidence is in, things can turn around....let's hope this is the case for you.
All the best
The previous poster and I must have posted at the same time, I think what he has said is encouraging and I hope that this will indeed happen in your case too.
Thanks for advice ppl it has been a year of [censored] but I'll never give up
Who chooses who the psychologist is ?
Does the court mandate someone, or do the parties decide ? Or do they get social services to nominate someone ?
And who pays for it ?
the assessment is public funded as my child now has her own solicitor and a guardian was appointed.
It was agreed at the last hearing (when I had a barrister but no longer have legal representation due to funding) who the dr doing the report would be as was the childs solicitor agreed upon at the same time.
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