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[Solved] Any advice before I agree to something

 
 Dale
(@Dale)
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Hi there,

I'd been having every Saturday 9 til 4 with my daughter until the court papers arrived with my ex, she then stopped all contact until court.

I've been asking to see my daughter ever since, today she offered me 2 hours with her supervising, should I agree, I want more than anything to see my daughter and know she is ok, but will it have any ramifications in court in 2 weeks time, as I will be asking the court to reinstall our original arrangements as an interim measure.

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Topic starter Posted : 24/09/2015 8:19 pm
(@got-the-tshirt)
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Hi There,
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I don't think it would cause any issues in court for you to take this offer, and in fact if you said no, I bet your ex would use it against you in court......."I offered him time and he refused"
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AllI will say is that when you meet, do it somewhere public, if you can take someone without it causing issues then do it, that way you don't run the risk of her coming up with any false alagations of you cuasing arguements or anything else.
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Go and enjoy some time with your daughter.
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And good luck in court.
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GTTS

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Posted : 24/09/2015 8:51 pm
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 Dale
(@Dale)
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Thank you, since the court papers arrived she has accused me of eye for eye discipline on one of her other children, and that she is worried I'll hurt our daughter, I was worried that it would look like an admission of guilt by agreeing to her supervising, but I think you're right and I'll go and enjoy seeing my little girl, thank you again

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Topic starter Posted : 24/09/2015 8:57 pm
 Yoji
(@Yoji)
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Speaking from experience here; take the contact that she has offered.

It is not an admission of guilt, rather it is you taking any opportunity until the Court can set this unreasonable wrong right.

I have encountered this myself personally where Judge stated he was disappointed I acted so staunchly in refusing a small amount (1hr a week) of interim contact. It will show commitment more than it ever would a show or admission of guilt 🙂

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Posted : 24/09/2015 11:49 pm
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(@mr-slim)
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Yup I agree go and see your Daughter but be very very careful and make sure all communication is nice no arguments ect as you don't need anymore false allegations getting banded about.

Did you get that message I sent mate? the messaging system on here is absolutely dire.

Slim 🙂

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Posted : 25/09/2015 1:34 am
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(@dad-i-d)
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As the others have said, anything is better than nothing...but don't out yourself in a position where your ex could make false claims against you.
Make it somewhere neutral, public, a play zone or similar.

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Posted : 25/09/2015 2:23 am
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 Dale
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Yes I did, thank you mate

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Topic starter Posted : 25/09/2015 7:30 pm
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