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Hi,
Just back for more advice before i start my new case.
Admin pretty much know my situation but briefly if anybody else can help it would be much appreciated.
I got a contact order 3 years ago, messed it all up over a period of a year, went for an enforcement as the mother started to refuse to turn up to the centre, my enforcement failed as i couldn't do what the court asked me to do at that particular time, plus on the final hearing i didnt even turn up as i was so fed up, down and knew the case would get thrown out, huge mistake, i know. The mother has had a couple of restraining orders out on me, had me fined £600 and i am currently on probation till December, none of this was physical violence, just verbal threats via facebook and text. I am standing trial in 2 weeks for breach of the order for asking to see my child, nothing nasty or aggressive but it was still a breach, so yes, in a right pickle.
However i still wont stop the fight to make thing's better and hopefully i will see my child again. My enforcement application failed last Feb 2nd 2017, i have taken 6 months out of going to family court and i am ready to start a whole new application. I know i have to attend another MIAM meeting and fill out C100 forms etc, i am aware of all this. Since Dec 2015 i have not sent any nasty messages to the mother and her family, i have pretty much kept my nose clean on that front, so that will be nearly two yrs of keeping on the right track, as i just previously stated, i have been breached of the restraining order but again if family court or CAFCASS see the nature of the messages i got breached on then they can see there was no malicious intent.
So why am i here again!!... Well just to ask what can i expect. Not turning up for my final hearing, does that mean court will just refuse to accept my application??....i know they will look back at why my order failed and tbh i have no excuses, i just have to take it on the chin and hope i get another chance. The mother made so so many mistakes to, but that will count for nothing because of the mistakes i made.
If anybody can give advice or know anything then fire away. Be brutal if you need to be.
Thanks
I think you will just have to wait and see what the court says and jump through any hoops they ask you to
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