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I would give her 5 or 6 weeks notice, not a month, just so that it doesn't look as though you are making it difficult, after all, there isn't a great deal she can do. And at the same time, I would offer to arrange an alternative date for the phone call, either just before you go, or just after you get back. That way, you've given her an alternative which means she doesn't have a leg to stand on in court if she tries to go back there - a court would expect that it would be reasonable for you to go on holiday.
Thank you. It is noted within the Court order that 1 months notice is to be given on all foreign holidays. thats why I said 1 month.
Thank you once again, 🙂
When they say one month, I think the spirit of the order is that it is at least a month - it might look better if you uphold the spirit of the order, and not stick to the letter of the order. I just looks as though you are being reasonable, which will always look better for you if you are back in court for any reason.
Hi Sporadic
Well we’ve been on a long hard road, but I’m so happy that the truth came out in the end and you had a strong and fair judge that recognised the importance of judicial continuity.
As for your questions, if you’re concerned about the continued drinking, you could write directly to the judge that had made the final order and ask if the case can be returned to court to address this. You could suggest that she does a breathalyser test on pick up and drop off. You would do that by writing “FOR THE ATTENTION OF: (name of judge) along the top of the email or letter, underneath your names and case number.
The judge has the discretion to return a case to court and as its only been a couple of months, he may agree to it.
Regardless of what you decide to do, it’s something that you need to monitor, as her drinking could spiral out of control at any time.
As far as the telephone call, I’d say give her ordered notice, but offer her a call just before you leave and one as soon as you return, putting it in writing.
Have a wonderful holiday and all the best
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