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Alcoholic wife

 
(@firework)
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Hi,

This is my first time reaching out so please be kind.

My wife is an alcoholic, she has spells of drinking daily in secret and then can go months without a drink. She lies to me, covers it up and there is no trust in our relationship 

We have a two year old girl. When she drinks, our girl is at risk through her behaviour and look after both of them around my job.

I'm reaching the end of my patience and love so I was hoping for some advice on what to do next. There are a couple of others who know about the alcohol but I'm terrified that the courts or whatever will favour the mother over me and I won't be able to see my child, and worse still, she will be at risk.

Should I be collecting proof? Taking videos of her drunk? Keeping a diary? Or getting others to see how much she is drinking? What gives me the best chance of getting custody?

Many thanks for reading, it's amazing how just writing it down makes me feel a bit better.

 

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Topic starter Posted : 02/04/2023 12:09 pm
(@dadmod2)
Illustrious Member

Hi,

Would she be willing to seek counseling or other support? 

Some info here: https://www.nhs.uk/nhs-services/find-alcohol-addiction-support-services/

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Posted : 02/04/2023 1:53 pm
(@dadmod4)
Illustrious Member

I would definitely keep a diary, it can't do any harm, and the worst that will happen is you don't use it. Bear in mind, if it is used, it will be seen by a court, so bear in mind the format and content. When you say she can go months without a drink, that doesn't sound like the behaviour of an alocoholic (I was married to one, and she just tried to conceal it) unless she is trying to recover from it, so you need to be sure that it is this, and not just occasional binge drinking.

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Posted : 08/04/2023 6:17 pm
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