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Hi,
Can any one give any testimonies on their experience with parental responsibility and the next steps?
Some background: i'm seeking parental responsibility for my daughter who is just over 2 years old (i know i should have done it earlier), i separated with her mother a couple of months after my daughter was born, despite still being together, my daughters mother decided that she would not tell me when the registration date was and left me off the birth certificate stating "I am not your secretary" (which i thought was quite harsh considering we were still together). Anyway we both said some harsh things to each other but agree that i should have contact with my daughter. We would meet at parks etc and everything was fine. I lost my job in late 2021 and then my life spiralled out of control, my daughters mother stopped contact with me and decided i could not see her which made my situation worse and i drank alot. fast forward to the start of this year (2023) and my daughters mother and i start communicating again and i begin to see my daughter every weekend at a playgroup, after a while i begin to relapse as i was having trouble in the shared accomodation i was living in (i was got a beaten up a few times in the shared kitchen and was scared for my life, police involved etc) which disrupted my psyche and led me into a spiral of anxiety and depression. I never told my daughters mother as i did not want her to stop contact, i missed one session due to not being able to get there and was accused of being a lazy dad and then i was very rude in my response (i have since apologised for being rude). Fast forward to now (September) My daughters mother and her family ignore any messages i send and i have contacted a solicitor to start mediation/apply for parental responsibility.
Does anyone have any advice or testimony they can give about mediation and whether it will allow me to see my daughter twice a week or if it is just to get my name on the birth certificate? i have some doubts and concerns that my past behaviour my hinder my chances of getting on the birth certificate and ever seeing my daughter again and its crushing me every day, i can't think about nothing else.
Any advice/testimony is appreciated.
Hi,
With solicitors/barristers the average cost of a case is around £15,000 which is avoidable. With right guidance you can self represent. If she is open to mediation and reasonable, she may agree to access again and birth cert issue. If you cannot agree, then can go through courts as last resort. Feel free to get in touch if you need advice.
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