[Solved] Advice required

However even though I've never missed a payment etc I've not got any contact with my child. The last time I seen her was in March 2008. Since then I've only had one photo of her in a keyring from photo's taken at nursery.

So I've a few questions to ask as it looks as if I'll have to go to court to again access my solicitor thinks that my case is a strong one and any judge will find in favour of me.

1, When we split ex via her lawyer said she wanted me to be a part of childs life overnight contact etc. I regulary seen her once/twice a week for a couple of hours due to shifts etc I was working I also called to find out how she was doing and speak to her on the phone until I got a job back where I come from which is 200 miles away. I moved out of the home as she wanted me out so she could stay in it with the nipper until it was sold and as I had no money at the time I moved back in with a parent. She never moved back into the family home but stayed at her mums with 6 others living in a 3 bedroom home which made my daughter ill letters from the lawer said it want an ideal situation. However in the April after the split she claimed she was moving into a private let with just her and my nipper. Had her on the phone giving it sob stories looking for extra cash. Turns out she had been living with the fella she'd had the affiar with and he was paying the bills etc.

2, At the time we agreed that we would alternate Xmas/Birthdays with regards to access etc. Also that we would meet 1/2 way once a month or so enabling me to have regular contact. After doing this once she said she would not be doing this again as it was too tiring/didnt have the money etc. I offered via my solictor to pay for petrol/train and pointed out it was just over an hours drive for her to get there. After finding out she was living with someone I was cut out of my childs life completely she refused to answer phone calls and 2 weeks later I get a letter from her lawyer saying not to phone as the child is becoming upset on the phone and she doesnt know who I am this was about a year after we split.

3, I've qurieird and was going to do a DNA test as I think the affair had been going on for a while and wanted to be sure the child was mines. When I asked for access for Christmas she refused via solictor the christmas card I sent that year was opened then returned posted back on the last day of posting before christmas. I've sent birthday gifts down last year and they sat in the post office for 3 weeks. Sent down Christmas gifts this time around however not sure if she got them either.

4, Not long after she moved into the other property she said if I wanted to see my child I would have to go to her address or her mums considering I was told in lawyers letters I would not be welcome at her mums address plus with the fact of her family I was concerned that someone may try and start some bother delibertly. So asked to meet at a netural venue. She refused however finally settled on meeting at a contact centre were we used to live I agreed to this. The first appointment that was sheduled never took place as she was expecting a kid to the fela she's with. She then pulled out the 2nd meeting as she claimed she was going on a family holiday. Suspecting she was at it my solicotor wrote a strong letter asking for proof she was going away etc. The reply was she felt it was a menacing letter and she thought I might assult her if we met up.( I'm not a wife beater and never raised a hand during the marriage) She stated that the only way I would get contact would be to take her to court. Since she moved iin with the new fella this is when all the problems started not sure if his infulencing her ect.

5. It took her 2months to inform me of a change of address we were aware of it prior to being informed and it came after I'd posted gifts down for birthday felt it was an attempt to delibertly get me to miss her birthday.

Whilst all this has been going on I've asked via solicitor for updates on my childs welfare etc I get a standard reply back she is well and meeting her developemental needs. I've also sent the police round to the door for a welfare check due to her cutting me out of phone contact etc and I was concerned about sudden lack of contact. I've manged to find some pic of my nipper online via social media.

After a fair period of time I tried contacting her again via a solicitor asking for contact thinking a bit of time would have cooled her head down ...not so I've notw been informed that she will no longer forward on any gifts I send her down and I will have to give her them myself....bit hard when she wont allow access!

I've continued to send gifts on birthday's/Christmas

I'm going to take her to court as I should be able to scrape the money togther for the hearing and represent myself I'll be asking for the meetings at a contact center/phone calls a few times a week to resume ASAP and afterwards for the 1/2 contact to start with the original holiday arrangement to start.

So where would I stand legally I know that since I pay the CSA I've got full parental rights

So do I have more rights with regards to my childs welfare than the ex's new partner and since she's had another kid to him should anything happen to her would I get custody of my child or would they keep the siblings together.

Sorry for going on but just trying to explain it all so hoping it will give the full picture with what to expect.