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Hi All,
I have recently applied for a contact order (C100) via a Family mediation service (ex refused to go to mediation) and have received it back with a court date this month. Do I need to send a copy of this to my ex, or will the court have sent it ot her directly. I cant seem to find any info on this.
when I applied to the court they sent the C100 back to me with a copy this I hand delivered to my ex - now i wish I had posted it as she kicked off in front of the children
In the letter you got from the court their should be a copy for your ex with her name on it and I think a c7,c9 ?
if you do not wish to hand deliver it you can send it recorded delivery as you will need to let the court know how it was served,
must say I did mine in feb and now the is a new Child arrangement order so it might be slightly different
There was only one copy and no C7/9. I am not sure whether to post a copy to her (registered). In don't want to mess this up i have waited too long!
I would give the court a call in the morning and check with them if they have sent /served her or if they want you too explain you don't have any other paperwork if that is the case they may be able to send you the other forms,
as you said don't chance it find out - I found getting in touch with the court difficult as they are under staffed but once speaking very helpful and they would definitely be able to give you the information on what you need to do
many thanks for your reply
Yes mate you should of sent in atleast 3 copies of the forms to the courts, they check em do there thing then sent you a couple of copies back to serve on your ex, prepare for it to hit the fan when you do lol 🙂
I contacted the court ,who have informed me they have served the papers directly to her. I had a threatening phone call yesterday on a with held number off her, so i guess she must have received them! Is she allowed to contact me before it goes to court??
Expect plenty more of that mate and she can pretty much do what she wants, If i was you I'd write down when and what has been said in any future phone calls and even better buy a little dictaphone and record them, I really wish I did now so I could prove what she has been like all the way along.
Just make sure you do not under any circumstances reply to phone calls texts emails in a negative way as these will be used against you and the police will see it as harassment.
Slim
I contacted the court ,who have informed me they have served the papers directly to her. I had a threatening phone call yesterday on a with held number off her, so i guess she must have received them! Is she allowed to contact me before it goes to court??
so you know she has got it , Slim has given you so good advise keep a log of any interaction do not contact her and awaiting till the hearing, sadly this is when the false allegations come up so be prepared
seems a better way for the court to serve I would have preferred that I had the papers thrown at me in the street with her shouting I was faking the court papers no way could I serve her and she was doing all this in front of the children even thou I has asked to speak to her privately she refused and then called police saying I was harasses her with pretend court papers - so hoping that the court feel it's better to directly serve themselves makes sense ,
Many thanks for your replies gents.
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