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So as per my previous post soon to be ex wife has randomly decided she no longer wants me having the children on Wednesdays as I have every week for 2 years. She has given no reason. We are not on talking terms. She is still content me having them every weekend.
I don't agree obviously as I love my midweek contact and have recently submitted a C1 aiming for shared residence and in fact an extra day. (Northern Ireland).
My solicitor had advised I don't attempt to collect the children from school until this is resolved.
My opinion is that I have always had them on Wednesdays and I don't see why my wife can suddenly change this so I wish to attempt continuing collecting from school.
There is no formal contact order, my submitting C1 is first court involvement and I DO have parental responsibility.
Do I try to collect them or stay away?
I think it would be better to follow your solicitor's advice and not attend the school. It could cause bigger problems and also run the risk of your children witnessing a scene. If you attend and it does cause problems, it could paint you in an unfavourable light in the upcoming court proceedings.
Better to illustrate how unreasonable the mother has been in suspending an arrangement that has worked well for the last 2 years.
Good luck
Thanks Yoda
It just bemuses me how come she can arbitrarily decide this and I have to wait God knows how long to get it addressed. It makes no sense.
I agree, it's ridiculous. Hopefully, you will have an order soon and then if she breaches, it doesn't take so long to return to court.
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