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Not sure where to start, but here goes. Trying to keep it vague as to not give away any details to identify...
Somepoint last year my ex partner decided to leave me, but before doing so we tried having myself stay at a family members house one night a week. The first night i went away the ex partner had someone else in our bed, someone my ex partner hardly knew and this was whilst my child was in the house too.
My child currently lives with me full time, the ex partner only sees the child once a week and it has been this way for 6 months. The ex partner called one night for myself to "come take child away" due to a family bust up and other more serious allegations.
We went through mediation, and a written agreement was signed by us both that the child lives with me.
The ex partner has now claimed at a usual handover that I am not the childs parent, they want a DNA test and said it's not right for me to have them. This is the day after I secured a flat for just myself and my child (after looking for months on end), so to me it certainly seems it's an attack against me with the child as a weapon.
The child is a couple years old, they are attached at the hip to me and we have a perfect bond.
I called the mediator right away when the ex partner said this, and the ex partner agreed for my collection of the child as normal due to my not backing down. The mediator won't be getting back to me until next week.
I am wondering what to do, never been in this situation.
Well the simple answer is that you continue on the assumption that the child is yours. Even if a DNA test (if you ex actually goes that far, as it sounds as if she might just be trying to get you to walk away) were to show you aren't the biological father, you are still the only father this child has ever know, and a court will certainly take that in to consideration.
Thanks, I was planning to continue as normal, and I will not be backing down on this one at all.
We will have to see how ballsy they are, and if they are prepared for the consequences of their actions.
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