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Hi,
First time posting so please be gentle with me.
I'm rapidly getting to the end of my tether. I'll try and sum things up as best I can.
I left my wife three years ago now after a breakdown of the marriage. My two children stayed with my ex wife.
Since then I've had a rocky relationship with my children (15 and 12) because of the information that my ex feeds them. She's making me out of be some sort of control freak and liar. This simply isn't the case.
She is continually very abusive on Twitter and I no longer use any social media outlets because anything I said would get pounced on and twisted. She also continues to harass my family and friends, particularly on Facebook by dm'ing them etc.
I have been unable to see my children since roughly September last year because my ex is claiming that they don't want to see me or have anything to do with me.
I'm pretty sure all this is money motivated. Money was the only thing she ever really loved in our relationship. I am currently earning very little and because of the the payments I make each week are very low, something I'm also accused of lying about even though I requested that we deal with all payments via the CSA which she eventually did.
My ex is also continually stalling on the divorce proceedings and is making me pay for everything.
I desperately want to see my kids. I want this woman to stop posting such nasty stuff on the web (it's not doing her or my kids any favours what-so-ever). I want to get a divorce. What can I do?
Happy to answer any questions.
Thanks in advance,
R
Hi R
You would think after three years she would have been able to move on, perhaps once the divorce is final she may be be able to...let's hope so!
I really can't advise you on the divorce side of things, my area of knowledge is the child contact side of things, so Ill stick to that and hopefully other members will be along to share their experience with you about how to get the divorce moving forward.
The fact that your children are 15 and 12, their wishes and feelings would be taken into account should you go to court. Before this you would need to attend mediation first, you could also use medaition to try and reach agreement on divorce matters too. Here's a link to the mediation services
www.nfm.org.uk
Child contact can be decided as part of the divorce and can be included in the statement of arrangements for children form that is filed with the divorce. You might find a website called Wikivorce.com helpful, you'll find plenty of information about the divorce process there.
If you can get mediation underway you could broach the subject of her abusive behaviour on social media during the sessions....when you talk to the mediator prior to setting the sessions up I would mention the strain this is causing to you and your family.
Best of luck
Hi There,
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How is she atalling the divorce? I would assume over finances, if you give me some details I may be able to suggest some things to speed it up, if you want to send details in private message feel free so it isn't on public forum, if you want to private message click my user name and then you will go to my profile at the bottom of my info on the left is the private message link.
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GTTS
Hi Mojo has given you good advice there.
The only thing I would add in respect of contact arrangements for the children; court orders are only made to the age of 16 so I would think about taking action on mediation sooner rather than later if that is your best option. Contact can be worked into divorce arrangements and you could have a court order made by consent in respect of that aspect.
Keep posting and we will do what we can to help, good luck!
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