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Hello,
I'm new to this site and was wondering if anybody could offer me any advice.
I have had an agreement in place with my ex where I have my two children (6 & 3) from Sunday 1pm until Wednesday 9am. This has been in place for almost 2 years. My ex has decided to change it and reduce it by a night. I am going to mediation as I am against this new change as its not in girls best interests as they are in a settled routine with me. My exes father came to my home on Tuesday to get my youngest and was abusive when I contested. To avoid any scenes I let him collect my oldest from school. I am aware that I have parental responsibility over him but what advice can anyone offer me with this.
Thanks in advance
Hi there and welcome 🙂
You would have been within your rights to call the police when the father became abusive but I can understand your desire to avoid scenes in front of your child.
Its a difficult situation because as you are probably aware the Resident Parent holds most of the cards! What you do have in your favour is the fact that for almost two years you have had your children for three out of seven nights which is practically a 50/50 split.
Ifs the agreement informal or do you have a defined contact order? Unfortunately if its not through a contact order from a court then she can limit your contact however she likes.
Mediation is a good first step, however if this fails I would waste no time in applying to court for a contact order. There is information about this at the top of the Legal Eagle section in two stickys, one is called the Contact Order C100 Guide, this is about the form you would need to apply for contact to court and some useful tips on how to fill it in. The second is called A Guide to Representing yourself in Court, which has lots of useful information. The fee for applying for contact is £200.
Good luck with everything 🙂
Oops I meant to mention, I advise you to start a Diary of everything that happens concerning your children...you can start with what happened with your ex's father. Keep all txts and emails and make a note of absolutely everything including anything that is said in telephone conversations!
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