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Hi, my wife has refused to sign the transfer of deeds document for land registry on the advice of her solicitor. My mortgage offer expires tomorrow and I'm no longer in a position to make a new application until I clear the debt on my credit card due to increased costs from my solicitor.
I'm now going to play hardball.
I agreed to pay a maintenance payment of £500 per month for my 3 Kids. As I have them 4 nights one week and 2 the next, can I reduce the payment accordingly as I have joint custody? There is no court or csa involvement and the initial agreement was made verbally between us.
Also, can I make a claim for a portion of child benefit?
In addtion my wife receives £1,300 a month tax credit and working families. Can I have that reduced based on a joint custody arrangement?
So far she has put me in so much debt yet she is very comfortable receiving £2,500 per month all told.
Any advice welcome
Hi Devastated,
First thing I would do regarding payments is get onto the CMS calculator and tally it up. Your contact equates to 156 days as an annual average, so would have a bearing on what you should pay.
I'd suggest that child benefit is likely to be a non starter, as it is all down to the "primary carer" - though by all means give them a call to double check, you never know.
It sounds to me as though your ex is having her cake and eating it in terms of the finances, and is now using the house as a further tool to bargain with.
My first port of call would be the CMS calculator, so you get an idea of the minimum they suggest you should pay.
Hopefully someone wiser than I will be along to advise on further steps you can take.
All the best,
BD.
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