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I need some help please. If all goes well with the fact finding, please keep your fingers crossed for him, and ex is proven to have mentally abused his eldest child by using him to support her very serious false allegations he's going to try for residency of all the children. What would the judge expect him to be able to provide for them in order to achieve this? I am assuming a suitable home as a minimum but anything else specifically? He's not had any contact at all for over a year so I'm assuming he couldn't expect any change of residency instantly. If anyone has any experience could they please share it. I want him to have the very best possible chance he can of showing the judge he's the better parent.
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I've got everything crossed for him, we all have.
Obviously appropriate accommodation would be required, perhaps he could look into schools in his area and if he works have some plans about childcare. Perhaps he would need to consider seeking some counselling for the children... If the court decide to transfer residency, the fact that there's been no contact for such a long time would be an issue and they might put them in short term care until spending time with him can be assesses/managed to prepare them to live with him. I would think he would have help and support from Children Services too, it would be managed for the children I'm sure.
Thank you so much Mojo I'll pass this on to him. I know it's thinking ahead a bit but I want to him to be fully prepared and right now pretty much all he can think about is the fact finding. His barrister is sure there should be no findings of fact made against him but ex is still not supplying any of the order paperwork (not even a response to the list of allegations he made) despite an extension and is out of contact with everyone including the Guardian. I am just hoping she's not going to delay the fact finding because he needs that over to finally, hopefully, get rid of these false allegations forever, they have been hanging over him for far too long now.
I can't imagine the pain he must have been carrying in his heart... I can't believe she is still getting away with flouting the court! Let's hope things will turn in his favour. They won't allow her to continue to ignore the proceedings and will call time on her soon I hope.
Thank you Mojo. I'll keep you all updated. He was hoping for an emergency hearing regarding the non-submission of documents but despite an application being submitted by his solicitor last Thursday he's heard nothing.
He should hear soon....everything crossed for him.
Emergency hearing has been listed, ex has been ordered to bring the required documents to court. I really hope if she doesn't they come down hard on her. He needs some indication that she can't just batt her pretty eyelashes and get away with everything because she's a woman. I'll keep you posted.
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