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I have separated with my wife.
We have been separated now for one and a half months.
My wife is disabled with a chronic pain disorder, my daughter who is 18 is also disabled with a genetic disorder as well as psychological issues relating to OCD, and anxiety.
Both receive full disability benefits.
My wife is saying he will take the house and force me t pay maintenance for her and my daughter for the rest of my life.
My wife recently got a mediator to contact me for mediation. The mediator however knew my wife so I politely refused stating I required a mediator who could state they did not know either of us.
To this end I found a mediator myself and then attended a MIAM.
The mediator then contacted my wife. My wife however has stated that she cannot attend mediation as she has something to do, that she cannot attend until November. The mediator has of course not been able to say why but has said my wife seems to have received very good advice and the reason for waiting is not uncommon.
I am now asked if I want to wait or fill in a form stating I have sought mediation but my wife refused. The mediator warned that if I went to court it would take two years anyway.
I suspect my wife is up to something here. She took all he bills including our mortgage payments into a new account she set up and I had not been able to help financially as she will not let me contact her without calling the police and claiming harassment.
I have now been able however to transfer money to pay approx half the mortgage into her new account and give an amount of money to my daughter the day after my wife refused mediation.
Does anyone have any idea why my wife thinks this delay would be advantageous to her?
Hi,
Is this about contact with your daughter?
Or is this about financial settlement?
If the latter, I would seek proper legal advice - CAB or solicitor.
To start financial settlement (ancillary relief) you have to first file for divorce at court then file for ancillary relief.
If ex is unwilling to attend mediation, get the mediator to complete the form that other party has not attended.
It is a long process (less than 2 years) but I would start it and take legal advice before you financially commit to anything.
PS Ex should prevent you from having contact with your daughter even at aged 18.
I am referring to financial settlement between my wife and myself.
I would seek proper legal advice - CAB or solicitor.
To start financial settlement (ancillary relief) you have to first file for divorce at court then file for ancillary relief.
If ex is unwilling to attend mediation, get the mediator to complete the form that other party has not attended.It is a long process (less than 2 years) but I would start it and take legal advice before you financially commit to anything.
Hi there
If you are paying her money by bank transfer make sure you reference it as maintenance, so that you have proof you have been paying her....in case she denies she has received any contributions from you.
I'm not sure that she can take the house and make you pay forever....usually that not the case when a marriage breaks down, but because of the disability issue different rules may apply. I would advise as Loving_Dad has that you seek legal advice.
Good luck
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