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Hi all
I know I haven't been on for ages.
Summary so far
I got married in 2007, in Feb of 2008 my wife came to live with me from Pakistan, she wanted to have a baby straight away and due to our cultures I agreed.
Long story short, by July of the same year she fled pleading dv and for 4 years I never saw my child.
In 2012 I started proceedings and won and was able to start contact. I got all the way from supported to unsupervised. Step father has legal PR for the child through these proceedings.
After a year, it was clear I could not bond with this child. Please those dads on hear if you take offence to what I say next I appreciate where you are coming from and how you may feel, but please do not judge till you are in the same boat.
So.. I ceased contact and withdrew my application for contact. A year has passed and I have had no contact and have not even missed him.
I do not want to destroy his life by being the dad that doesn't care and isn't there. I don't want him and hhabe never bonded with him.
Is there anyway I can put him for adoption with the step father?!
There's plenty of information for the mother to apply and for the step father to apply but not in may case.
I do not have a postal address for mother but the courts and local council will have
Pls help,
There is no way you can force adoption on another person, it would have to be the decision of the mother and the step father to do this and apply to adopt, at which time your obligation to pay maintenance would also cease, but that might be a reason why the mother would chose not to go down this route.
So there is no way I can put the child for adoption or have my PR revoked?
Seems unfair, when a mother can do so without a second thought
not that I am aware of - ultimately, the child is still yours and you are responsible unless you are relieved of this by adoption.
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