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[Solved] Addition to Specific Issue Order/C100

 
(@Kirsten)
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My son has put all the paperwork into court including a specific issue order regarding
the medical records access problem.
However, since his ex is bombarding him with text messages still, he contacted the police
for advice.
Since the sheer volume of text messages the Police won't just send her a letter, or pay her
a visit to tell her to stop texting they just going to arrest her !
Now, to us this seems very harsh at this moment in time since my grandchild is still a baby
and I don't think the court is going to like this very much.
However, I wonder if my son can add something to the bundle by way of another specific
issue order to get her to text only with regards to the baby and the baby only.
Would that be possible?
Has anyone else had any experience with this kind of thing?

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Topic starter Posted : 02/05/2014 1:45 pm
(@eric14)
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Hi

Before going to court me and my ex had indirect mediation and one of the rules set were as you said text only when it was important and concerned the child/ren nothing else,

as this was an mediation agreement I think the court may have ben happy to make it an order had we wanted it too ... sorry I can not advise on it ,

my ex was sending abusive text and abusing me and my wife in the street and the police did visit her to advise her to stop and instead of denying it she said they did it aswell ... we didn't but that was her admitting it was true silly woman, but all she got was a warning so maybe the text contain some not very nice things and as you said the volume she may be cautioned with malicious communications ? or just spoken to at the police station so she takes it seriously ?

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Posted : 02/05/2014 2:14 pm
Kirsten and Kirsten reacted
(@Kirsten)
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Hi Eric14
well, we thought they could just pay her a visit to tell her to stop texting so much.
In the past my son has had more than 900 ( yes, 900) text messages in one week.
The officer who came to us told us that because of so many messages, some of which
are abusive, they would consider this to be harassment and that laying her a visit or
"Invite" her to a police station would not achieve anything.
They would go for an arrest!
Obviously my son is waiting for a court date and doesn't want to do anything
to jeopardise his chances of contact....hence my question of wether it can be added
as a specific issue order at this stage that communication should happen only with regards
to child's well being and handover arrangements.
I did have to smile though when the police officer asked if my sons ex suffers mental issues...

Kirsten

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Topic starter Posted : 02/05/2014 2:52 pm
(@eric14)
Honorable Member Registered

wow 900 that is really something when she is meant to be caring for a baby how does she get the time !!

it's difficult to know what to do I know but it is good evidence for your son on her personality in my experience everything my ex does or has done to me she says it's me that does it to her, get this it's my fault her and her boyfriend fights as I ask to change contact time once it caused her so much stress to see her own children and ex hour .... now she is saying how good she is to let me have them every weekend even thou she wasn't happy she allowed this for 3 years ....they all lie

so part of me is thinking if your son replied at all she may get him done for harassment or something to try and tannish his character

be careful as sadly once they get the court application all manor of surprises come out it's hard at first as my ex reaches a new low each week ,

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Posted : 02/05/2014 3:11 pm
(@Kirsten)
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I have just phoned the court and they were really helpful.
They suggested that my son speaks to the judge at the hearing and if
that doesn't yield the wanted result he wants/ needs he should take out
an injunction.
Since he qualifies for a fee exemption this is a better option at the moment.
We just have to keep sane until the first hearing...:)

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Topic starter Posted : 02/05/2014 3:38 pm
(@dad-i-d)
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Very glad to hear that the Polcie are taking your son's ex's messages seriously.....unfortunately for me my ex's messages were harrassing in nature....the poilce admitted that....mine were not....the police admitted that but my ex still managed to get a "female" DC in the DV section to issue me an harassment warning....i've managed to get the courts to see that this should never have been issued and yet the police still won't remove it as they say their officers acted correctly with the information they had at the time......something i dispute and proved but at the time i didn't pursue past the Area Police commsioner as i was still in the middle of the battle for more contact with my ex.

looking back now i should've pursued this as it added months of delays with having to have Cafcass involved and using contact centers all that were never needed and subsequently proven not to be needed.

if i had to choose now after 4yrs of fighting to get where i am now..........i'd insist the police do something about her.....the courts would then have seen her lies a lot quicker and i'm sure this would not have gone on so long!

see what the judge says.......get print outs of them all.....i did and was easy to show my ex the liar and harasser in court that way.....no matter how many pages you print out it proves your word over hers.

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Posted : 02/05/2014 4:26 pm
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