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So the court ordered an addendum. I received it today. The social worker ring me to state that there wasn't much in it about me because it was to focus on my ex. However, I can't find anywhere it states that. I was under the assumption it was an update to matters not just those matters on her. He told me that he didn't mention our phonecall last week as he had only received the email yesterday to do the addendum funny how he visited my son on Wednesday then!
I contacted SW last week, explained that son was being manipulated by his mum. He said that he would visit son at school instead of with her. I explained that son isn't confident in speaking with her present.
SW visited school, son explained that he didn't want to talk to him and explained it was because his Mum had told him SW had lied to judge.
Son made it clear to SW when asked where he wanted to live that he wished to stay with me and my wife.
EHA has been done because SW hadn't recognised any needs or safeguarding issues.
The addendum doesn't have my sons wishes or feelings. It also states that son has said I told him Mum was a liar. It goes on to state that Mother attended alcohol programme for 1.5 sessions and came to an arrangement with the host no more were needed because she was now 'abstinent' again, funny considering son has mentioned twice in the last 2 weeks his Mum has been drinking wine. Oh but the addendum states he is happy with her for taking his advice despite me making him aware of alcohol when I rung him. I had a teacher present again when he visited who has vouched for what son has said.
This SW is so corrupt. Everything is in ex's favour. I may as well just go in to court and say here you go, have him back.
Everything she has done in the last 7 months will be forgotten. The drink, suicides, extensive medical history, assault.. you name it she has done it.
Shared care will not work, my other children will suffer as will me and my wife. After 7 months ex still hasn't even introduced herself to the school for god sake yet wants handovers to be done there to 'minimise' conflict... oh but my wife will be in the same place who she punched only 2 months ago. She lies & flaunts this whenever she wants and she is sure as [censored] going to get what she wants!
Remind me why I am doing this again because it feels like a waste of time.
Oh & to add.. the SW compiled the s7 report indicating that there had been a domestic verbal incident some 3 years ago. Turns out I got a SAR from the police where it states that there had infact been an argument but as a result of me returning to find she was having an affair. It also states within that request "no crimes had been committed" and was closed with no further action needed
You know my feelings, the SWsounds biased and as you say, corrupted. You will be given the opportunity to cross admin and I suggest that you prepare the questions thouroughly.
As there was a teacher present, could you get them to write a summary of what your son said to the SW?
Your son has been with you long enough for that to be a strong precedent, I hope and pray that you can turn this around and that the judge has their wits about them.
Best of luck
I don't have the time now sadly and can't present new evidence anyhow. I'm going to just have to see what happens.
I'm anticipating having to come back and have to tell me son he will have to go to live there for a week at a time. What a fantastic parent I'm going to feel.
I do hear that judges don't like sw's much and prefer cafcass. I really had a little hope but it's quashed now
Thank you Mojo
You really need to prepare your cross examination questions carefully and question at length to challenge the SW wherever possible.
It's possible the court will accept one piece of evidence if you have it with you on the day.
Wishing you all the best for this week.
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