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My 8 year old has reported me in school of hitting her. Her mother has been on a ruthless campaign of getting me to loose my access with kids. This is prob 17th allegation mother has made. Now after all her failures she got my youngest to report Me.
I fought a 2 year battle to get custody of kids again. School said they have reported incident to social services. Now what do I do, I would never hit my kids...
Man when will all the allegations stop. Problem is now my child has confidently said to teacher I hit her. I have a court order saying when I get kids but ex has taken the kids out of school and is not giving me access saying I pose a risk.
Hi,
Sorry to hear this. have SS been in contact with you? If not I suggest you speak to them. If this is cleared up and no further action, you can ask them to contact your ex and let her know of outcome. Then if she still blocks access, unfortunately you may need to enforce your court order.
I havnt heard from ss. I only knew about this cos my youngest told me she told the teacher I hit her. When I spoke to the teacher my youngest is saying this they said yes and they have made SS aware.
The mother already has a case going as she wanted to vary the order, cafcass are due to do a s7. In meantime ex has got kid to say this to teacher to bolster her case.
Thing is ex is stopping kids going back to school so I dnt collect them. She done similar thing before saying g I threatened her parents and removed the kids, and prevented my access. I got thr order enforced then to.
I'm worried if I do enforce the order I may end up in a contact centre again while this plays out. My youngest is heavily influenced by mother so no doubt she will tell teacher I hit her if her mother told to do so.
OK As cafcass still involved I suggest you contact officer that's doing s7 report and seek support from them.
so ex has filed a emergency order to revoke all my access to the kids. she wont allow me to see kids despite the court order arrangement we have in place.
im being setup clean here by her, shes coached my youngest to say i hit her. shes keeping my youngest away from me, as she is under her spell. theres no marks on my child, just no other complaints against me ever. 1 month ago she tried to vary the order for kids, judge said they will order a s7 but the ex would have to come out with a better story, 3 weeks later she got me accussed of child abuse and got me reported.
im kinda worried, i know i never hit my kid, i fought a 2 year battle and moved location to be closer, not to hit them. ex never wanted me to have access, i wont a fact finding trial, been in contact centre, all charges were dismissed. then she just took me to court over finances, she got 60/40 in her favour, and now this.
Hi,
Sorry to hear. I was recently involved and helped dad, where his contact was stopped due to smacking allegations and his ex did urgent court application. Judge was sensible and ordered contact to resume ASAP and ordered council to do a welfare report. Hope it goes well for you.
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