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Hi, sorry to ask so much,
Today the accusations have started, presumably my court application arrived with my ex.
Does anyone know after several months of mediation, with no mention of certain issues being raised. That whether that fact is seen by the court, and new accusations thrown at you, now it's going to court, are seen as made up or inflammatory.
Is it best to ignore her as much as possible, I also worry she'll cancel our current arrangements. Even though I've had every Saturday with no issues.
Hope that makes sense
A court is certainly going to be curious about why the accusations weren't made until you went to court - they have the option to disregard them if they think they are fictitious, or to order reports if hey think there is a possibility that there is any truth (or just to play safe).
This could well affect your existing contact in the short term, but if she withdraws contact for no good reason it won't go down well with the court. Make sure you keep a diary of all events, conversations, texts etc - better to do that ongoing than to try to recall what has happened in the past a few months down the line.
Much as actd has said really.
You could refer the person overseeing the case to obtain any relevant information pertaining to the Mediation and what the apparent issues were.
It may be that the accusations (particularly of DV) could be used in an attempt to gain Legal Aid. Hopefully contact will not be withdrawn.
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