[Solved] Accessing Medical records - what a farce

Agreed,

this is rubbish......Contact the practice manager say who you are and that you would like to access your childs records.

If you do not get a satisfactory response make a complaint.

The practice manager will want to avoid this 🙂

What is your current situation? Are you self repping and does she have a solicitor. Why do you have such infrequent contact?
Are you going back to court.......? You will need to highlight her reluctance to facilitate contact.

Let us know how it goes with the practice manager. Also get the name of the doctor who declined you as a parent to view the medical records.

Either way have a plan of where this is going.....either there will or will not be records to refute or resolve whether your child has been ill. If she is lying - what will you do (eg write to her solicitor or goto court. If she is telling the truth how is she able to make contingencies given the lack of frequency of contact.

I'll call the practice manager & let them know that my son's birth cert showing my name as the father should suffice.
In court, the ex had said that our son had been on antibiotics twice in 6 weeks for different complaints, when asked for details & Dr's note, her barrister said "the Father has PR, he can speak to the Dr", lots of requests & over 3 months later I was given the Dr's name.
If I find that she was lying, I'll bring that up in court, she did lie in court on 2 occasions, but there was no proof. But that's not important, I just want know what is happening with my son.

I'm represented by a solicitor, my ex was on legal aid until the last court visit & even they've given up on her after she got through 3 or 4 different law firms.
Using legal aid paid Barristers, they tried to say that since the ex left & hadn't allow any unsupervised contact, that our son was too young & clingy to his mother to be out of her sight.
They agreed for contact, but made it such a long, drawn out process that it's taken about 9 months to get from:
- Supervised contact for up to an hour (shortest was 20 minutes) at her families home with up to 6 of her family in the room. I had a 6 hour drive for that.
- Part supervised contact where she was forced by the court to leave the room for the majority of the contact, but I couldn't take him out of her familes home. (the ex would watch the contact & even interrupt it)
- 3 hours unsupervised where I could go anywhere with him (if North London traffic would allow)
- 7 hours unsupervised
- 27 hours every 21 days unsupervised (where I spend 12 hours in the car pick him up & drop him off - the ex does nothing to help)

I've asked the ex for Friday afternoon to Sunday afternoon every 3 weeks. As I work full time & it's so far to travel, access every 2 weeks is too tiring for me & it was awkward enough to get the ex to agree to 3 weeks. I even offered to pay the ex for her fuel if she picked him up, she refused. Even though it was her choice to move so far away from our family home.

Back in court soon to point out that the contact is going well I that the contact should be extended, the ex will object of course.

440Error/StrokeBloke (same person, there was an issue logging in on my normal account).
I contacted the GP's Administrator as the practice manager was out, they weren't sure of what proof they needed. I've offered copies of the court letters & they will confirm with the practice manager when she's in.
It was the practice manager that said that I needed to provide that but she will call me back tomorrow.

Speak to no one less than the practice manager. Just state you want the records. If you not heard by 12 -call them!

The issues you should be working to are now the duration. Given the distance long contact would not be unreasonable with overnight stays now. Is the child sleeping through?

I would probably suggest asking for alternate weekends fri-sunday and so she may compromise.

Good luck

Our son has always slept in the same bed with my ex until the 1st overnight contact I had with him (at 18 months). This was advised against from his birth by the Dr, the midwifes,me, our familes & friends.
The 1st overnight, he woke a few times but only for minutes, he actually slept for almost 12 hours in his room at my house. He slept for 2 hours in the car too. So in effect, the 1 day I get him for every 3 weeks, half is spent with him asleep.
Since then, the ex has stated that he needs to sleep in his own !?! (like I've said since birth)

I have politely requested increased time in the contact sessions after summer, I have said that instead of going back to court again, that we should try to work together to give our son the best opportunities in life & asked for Fri to Sun every 3rd week, a share of his birthdays & (as the ex has turned to Islam) I should be able to spend Christmas with him. She said that she wouldn't consider any increase until he's old enough to make his own decisions. (he's almost 2)

I've sent a copy of the court order to the Practice Admin, she is trying to get the access to my son's records approved.

Success! Just had a call from the GP, they're sending the medical records today. Apparently, they had to wait for the test results to come back before sending them. They wouldn't tell me over the phone what they were testing for.... I was unaware that there was anything wrong with him.

Cool well done.....

I hope your lad is wel...

regards,

Dave

Result!

As Dave says, hope your son is ok

In the continuing saga of accessing my son's medical records, the GP is sending them to me today... They took 10 working days to get them ready. That's the good news.
My ex is saying that (during the day that I see our son) that he got an infection/virus - which is very unlikely as we noticed it within hours of him getting here & didn't go out at all or mix with anyone apart from my parents (all are healthy).
The GP won't tell me anything about it as "You need to formally write to the Dr's surgery, the Dr will access the current records" & also confirm with my ex that she's happy for me to know about it!!! - Oh, and they will charge me again for the service...

My understanding is that as a parent with PR you should be able to see all medical records and notes, you should not need any permission from your ex.

Id e interested to hear what others with experience of this have to comment but it sounds like your getting the run around.

Regards,

Dave

Well done on getting the notes - they were bound to cave in, its your right!

Should be able to access all information related to kids. what they may do however - is not divulge any information disclosed by your ex as they in theory cannot divulge third party information without her consent so black out her bits.

You should however have reports of what the doctor saw, found and decided on how best to manage the problem eg calpol etc.... I forget how old the kids are and whether any specific advice was offered with regards to the not attending schools etc....

The reality is kids pick up bugs all the time and its important they get some exposure to build their immune system. I wouldnt get vexed by her claims. Even in the unlikely event from the restricted contact you had it is highly unlikely this was the cause but even if it was - what can you do about it? She is just being petty so dont play down to it.

BW

Thank you all.

I received the records today - one of the entries, the day after I had him for a night, stated that my son had been stressed, not sleeping or eating & showed signs of him crying for an extended period (according to the ex wife, no actual proof). The Dr made no comment in it.
When he was with me, he slept well, ate without issue and had been playing with me & my parents.
I think my ex has been taking our son to the Dr with falsified symptoms to get it recorded officially with the plan to use it in court...