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My ex has used the "our son is too unwell to see you" a few times this year, I only see him for 1 day every 3 weeks & if I don't see him that day, the ex won't allow a day where he's better.
I have PR as we were married & my name's on the birth cert. I was told in court by the ex's baristor in April that I can speak to our sons Dr about his health as the ex won't tell me anything as "It's not your business". After repeat reminders & a solicitor letter, the ex only provided the Dr's details last week.
I had to write to the Dr, but they want proof of PR (for data protection) & £50.
The ex won't sign the PR form, so I have to pay the court over £200 to get them to sign it.
So, over £7,000 in solicitors fees so far & almost a year in & out of court for just over a day every 3 weeks. With a 600 mile round trip (as the ex moved away) & I did nothing wrong (even according to the ex & judges). It's shameful!
Now I have to attend court, pay them, then the Dr, just to see how my son's health is.
Any suggesions?
I a no expert and I could be wrong but I believe there are letter templates available to write to your childs GP informing that you do have rights to this sort of thing.
I will take a look to see if I can find one for you.
I may be misunderstanding or incorrect but I will take a look.
Meanwhile I am sure other more knowledgeable will respond.
Regards,
Dave
Does this help at all?
http://www.separateddads.co.uk/write-school-gp-for-information-template.html
It may be you still have to pay some money, I know I have had to but that was to get my ex medical records made available.
I paid £50 because there are a lot of them however it could be as little as £20. I belive it may differ from GP to GP
Regards,
Dave
Thanks DaveR.
The Dr. has stated that I can see the records (for £50) once I've provided proof of Parental Responsibility (for £215) and a court visit.
I'm annoyed that it was ex's choice to leave & take our son so far away & that I have to almost bankrupt myself to get small window of access or any info.
My son is worth every penny, I just can't help feeling like the laws are too much in favour of the mother.
mmmm....proof of PR.
Cant a copy of the birth certificate prove that if it was registered after 2003?
What proof do you have to provide that costs £215?
Regards,
Dave
Unmarried Couples
In general terms, an unmarried mother is deemed to have "parental responsibility" for her children. For births registered in England or Wales; as a father you have parental responsibility if:
The child's birth was registered after December 1st, 2003 and your name is on the certificate as the father.
If the child was born before that time with no father listed on the birth certificate, but the birth was later re-registered with you named as the father.
If you and the child's mother sign a Parental Responsibility Agreement.
If you're given a parental responsibility order by the court, or a Residence Order for the child to live with you.
If you marry the child's mother.
Well done Dave that template letter on the separated dads website should do the trick, and PR can be proven with a copy of the birth certificate and marriage certificate. If your son was born after December 1st 2003 as stated above, and you are on the birth certificate then you automatically have PR.
Yes I agree with that and I would put that the letter too, in a new paragraph "Under the law ......blah blah blah" and I now enclose the original birth certificate and marriage certificate, that confirms you have PR automatically. They should know that aspect of the law at least!! And they can easily find out!
Thanks for all of the responses.
We were married when our son was born and I'm on his birth certificate, so I automatically have PR.
The Dr has requested "a copy of the court documents that state you have Parental Responsibilty to enable us to proceed with your request". So I'm not sure if they would be happy with the birth & marriage certs.
I've applied for a copy of his birth certificate (which was too easy in these days of identity fraud), that will be with me in 3 weeks.
The ex took all of the copies of the marriage & birth certificates.
To get proof of PR, you have to apply on
https://www.gov.uk/parental-rights-responsibilities/apply-for-parental-responsibility
As I believe that the ex won't sign a Parental Responsibility Agreement, I'd have to apply for a court order - which is the £215
I think the doctor is wrong! Give your solicitor a call and ask them for a letter confirming you have PR.
The ex would only be required to sign the parental responsibility agreement if you didn't have PR and she was agreeing to you getting it...that doesn't apply here.
If you print of the criteria for PR from the .gov website and forward that with the copy of the birth certificate, that should suffice.
Have a look at the court documents from your previous court case and see if there's mention of it on the order...My sons order specifies he has PR.
This might help
www.thecustodyminefield.com/Factsheets/TCM-PR-Print.pdf
NJ is right, the GP (Probably his staff!) is most definitely wrong! NJs suggestion to send a copy of the info relation to PR is a good idea. You have PR, you do not need to sign a Parental Responsibility Agreement, that document is only for those without PR
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