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I had a few casual encouters with the mother of my child but we were never an item. When she was pregnant I started a relationship with another woman. My son is now 4 months old and I am registered on the birth certificate as his father. We agreed on a figure out with the CSA for child support. The mother of my child demands to know where I have my son and who he sees when he is in my care and has also threatened not to allow me access to my son if my girlfriend is around. Can she stop me from seeing my son? Can she dictate who can see him? Does she have a right to know where and who I'm with when I have him?
Any help and advice would be greatly appreciated
I have the same problem with my ex. She doesn't wasnt me to leave him with even my mum while I nip to the shop to fetch baby milk(5mins) and she really kicked off about that - my son's own grandmother!
I don't think they have any right to dictate to you who your son is around if you have equal parental rights, as long as the environment he is in, is suitable. Just because your baby mum has a problem with your girlfriend doesn't mean that your son isn't getting the best care, it just means she's being difficult
Hopefully someone with a better knowledge of the law etc will be able to either confirm or otherwise on the above
Hi guys, Welcome along.
Your children's mum don't have the right to say who you see and where you go, when your child is in your care, I went through a court battle as my ex tried to do just that. I put up with it for 18 months but then had enough so told her I wouldn't tell her, she stopped contact so I went to court initially to have the restrictions removed but ended up going for better terms of contact as well, I now see my son every other weekend without any restrictions.
If your children's mum won't discuss this them I'd suggest mediation first and if that fails then look at court, you. And represent yourself and most judges seem to he sensible about this, they also seem to reasonable about not allowing the mother to dictate on conditions that is unless there is very good reason.
Darren
thank you both for getting back to me about this. I think if we can't reach an agreement or she won't back down with regards to who is with me when my son is in my care then I will get a mediator or failing that go to the courts and get the contact rights set out by law so she can't stop me from seeing him.
Jamie
She doesn't have any right to ask you where your taking the baby or who the baby is with. But as a mum I can see where she is coming from, its really not a nice thought to think of any woman who she will see as acting as a mother role to the baby, especially given that your baby is only 4 months old. You should always try and put yourself in the other persons shoes... How would you feel if you knew she had a partner and he was playing a part in your babies life? I know you dont have to but I think some consideration should be given in these situations. Have you tried asking her why she doesnt want the baby round your girlfriend?
This situation is hard for either parent and the only way to look at it, is that its just one more person to love and care for the baby
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