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Hi Earle
Are you sure you are looking at the police information correctly?
There is a difference between the police saying you HAVE actually done something, in which case there must be more information eg were you charged, outcomes, convictions etc, vs police saying that they were called out by your ex who reported something and the police attended to investigate.
The police are unlikely to lie, however often what does happen is that exes call out the police often in order to build up a record of things and make you look bad. The key aspect is the outcomes, if you do not even know about these then most likely the police took no further action.
However doing a subject access request would be the best thing, however consider that the police may not disclose anything to you if they have never spoken to you about things as technically you have no record and they may or may not release information about anything your ex has reported or if they do it will be heavily redacted.
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