[Solved] Access for my daughter

Back in feb this year I was in the same boat as you my ex had stopped access to my 4 month year old daughter and her sister and she never put me on the birth certificate I went to the CAB and they just looked at me blankly whilst a bit of tumble weed rolled across the office and said errrmmmm go on the internet lol

I then found a mediator who I had a short interview and he invited me and the ex to start mediation my ex never showed so he filled out the FM1 for and I went across the road to the family court filled out the C100 and the C2 paid my £215 and I was off 🙂

It took 4 weeks for the first hearing to come through and the ball was rolling 🙂

Hi there

It might help if you were to attend a local Families Need Fathers meeting in your area. You will meet others in a similar situation to yourself and will have access to advice and support. Here's a link to their webpage where you will find details of meetings locally

www.fnf.org.uk/help-and-support-2/local-branch-meetings

Good luck.

My son was in a similar position, his ex didn't want him on the birth certificate...!
Alas, he used a little " trick " a perfectly legal one at that.
What he did was to contact a solicitor who have free advice but asked for the content of
the conversation to be put in writing and has this mailed out to him.
He then forwarded this email on to the ex...who promptly changed her mind and they both
went to register the birth.

Things deteriorated unfortunately and because mediation is a must ( it failed because the ex wasn't willing)
the mediator signed the FM1 form and with that my son could go to court.

Slim is right when he says the CAB isn't very helpful, they will tell you,to get a solicitor involved but
again, this is not always an option when finances are tight.
My son represented himself with the help of a McKenzie Friend and got everything he asked for at
the Final Hearing.

Just read up on the "Sticky's" and ask as many questions as you like, we are all here to help.
You will see your little one again.

And yes, try and find a local "FnF" meeting in your area, FnF and this forum were and still are the
lifeline for both my son and myself, without them we wouldn't be able to enjoy the little one as much as
we now do.

Take care
Kirsten

Hi Mr Slim

This is my first post.
I have just been doing some research and I have come across post re access to daughter. I am in a similar position, I have been trying for sometime to get my ex to agree to put my name on birth certificate, she keeps saying yes but makes excuses why she cannot go to the Registrars Office. I even made an appointment one day and she made excuses not to go.

Now she is making excuses why I cannot see my child this week, she says she is too busy. Her friend who is looking after my child while she goes to work is seeing her more than me. She says she does not need my help. I am feeling very anxious about whole thing.

I have been to a solicitor for free advice. I guess I will have to find a local mediator as you suggest first, but I know she wont bother to turn up, which will be a waste of time and money.

🙁

Thank you very much everyone.

Can anyone advice or a good place to go for mediation ( the mother lives in Cardiff) and any idea of the fees?

Thanks

Hey Moonraker, Welcome to the forum dude 🙂

Like I said to Ben try not to worry I know it all seems like and absolute nightmare and all so daunting I nearly topped myself over it all it's the worst thing I have ever experienced been stopped from seeing your child then having to deal with a crazy ex but honestly this all can and will be sorted you've just got to have a huge pair of [censored] and start the fight for your child 🙂

Yeah the first step is to attend mediation but it will actually work in your favour if your ex doesnt show up as you will only have to attend for one session which costs around £100 then you can get your FM1 form signed and blaze down the courts and apply for a "child arrangement order"

See if she doesnt turn up you won't have to fork out £75 an hour for each session most women agree to it just to rinse you of your money and drag it all out longer so you have to go to court anyway so if she refuses thats a bonus.

Just get yourself to your local mediators asap as I wish I done it sooner than I did as the courts is a slow process for sure 🙂

Like I said you will get all the info you need from this site make sure you read my posts at the top of the legal eagle section they will put you at ease 🙂

I can't stand solicitors they make me feel sick but a good idea is to go to as many as you can at each stage of your case and use the money grabbing ******** for their free hour or whatever 🙂

Good luck boys 🙂

Hey Ben

Look up National Family Mediation for one in your area.

Also, as well as being able to get a 30 minute consultation with a solicitor and FNF, you can also call Coram Childrens Legal Centre, they have a helpline for free legal advice and are very good.

Good luck with it all.

Thanks guys i will contact a mediation centre asap, also can someone confirm the forms that i need for court? im aware that i need 3 copies of C100 but a bit confused if i need c1 or c2, as i am not on the birth certificate, thanks

Hey everyone,

I have just attended mediation and they have decided that mediation isnt suitable due to my daughters mother being too difficult in the past and being unreliable.

They have signed and gave me page 19 from C100 and also FM1 signed saying that i have attended mediation.

In order for me to request parental responsibility and my name to be put on the birth certificate, i need the FM1 and C1 form, is that right?

And for me to request a contact order so i can regularly see my daughter i need the C100 form?

Have i got all the information right?

i am going to my local family court tomorrow morning to make sure i have all the relevant paper work and to send it all off .

Things are moving slowly but at least there is a progress.

Thank you everyone for your help and if you have any feedback or tips please help .

Thanks

Probably worth having a read of the sticky topics on representing yourself at the top of the legal eagle section as a starting point, that will give you guidance on what you need and what to expect.

Hey everyone,

I have now filled up and submitted all the paper work to the courts.

I ended up with the FM1 form, C1 form, C2 form as i had to ask permission to the court, and the C100 form.

Any advice you guys think i may need from now? what will happen from now ?

Thanks