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I would check that your social worker is keeping a record of these conversations - that is really not going to do her any favours if it goes to court, and if she has any sense, she'll realise that and agree to a compromise to stop it going there.
Thankyou I can only assume these conversations will make up part of his assessment report as a matter of course? He has told me he will get a copy of this report by the end of the week. Even after her recent behaviour I would still hate my ex to get into any trouble as silly as that sounds, it would only upset my daughter and she is my prime concern in this whole mess. I obviously have the reply on my phone stating I had hurt my daughter when I offered contact without my ex which I believe are key facts which show my willingness to be reasonable. I will not contact her direct as I am all to aware of this being used as an harassment weapon is it more advisable to tell the mediator these facts? What key points are of most importance in your opinion? Many thanks in advance steve
Hi just a further update I met with the mediator today for my initial meeting after listening to a brief summary he rang the office and asked for an fm1 form to be sent to me which puzzled me he did not say why is this because he saw it was unsuitable for mediation? He did not say that but I am seeing it in a negative light I did stress that the social services and police were satisfied nothing untoward had happened and had closed the case I expected a few weeks wait for the form? In the past my ex has refused mediation does this have any bearing? Do I now find a solicitor and how much would this cost? Funds are tight to say the least and I can't bare the thought of having to wait and save or is it easy enough to apply myself? Sorry for all the questions but my head is a shed with it all and I just want a way forward and to see my daughter asap.
Thanks in advance Steve
It is easy enough to apply yourself to be honest. You need to be organised to know exactly what you would like, what you would compromise to and focus on what arrangements would be best for your child. The cost of a child arrangement order is around £220. If you are still not seeing your child then it would be best to ask for interim contact within your application.
Did the mediator sign the form? My partner has always had the mediator sign and give the form there and then so he can apply through the courts.
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Hi no he just rang the office and asked them to send it straight out
Thanks Steve
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