[Solved] Abducted ?

Hello me again !

I was quite buzzing that I was being taken serious, and that child services wanted to see me with his school. We arranged a date, and arranged for it to be in the school so after I could see him in that environment.

Ive just got an email from this link worker from Child services, saying they are inviting his mother as she has parental responsibility! I replied saying so have I, but Ive never been notified of a meeting or been invited to one? How can it be one rule for mother and another for me?

I thought this was my chance to speak about my concerns in an adult environment, and my wife was also coming as she is his step mum and I wanted them to see us as a unit.. Bit miffed ! It also means she will do something so I don't get to see him that day.

Also without being racist, I cannot understand this link worker when she calls, what do I do ? She is not from this country.

One more thing she is classed as a family practitioner???, but has (social worker) in brackets ?? thats odd?

Thank you ! So glad this place is here when we need it! Your all legends

Hi Guys,

Any advice on above? Haven't seen him for two months, traveling from Liverpool to London tomorrow to pick him up if she turns up.. fingers crossed !

Did you manage to pick your son up? I do hope she turned up with him.

As far as the meeting at school, I can understand why you feel put out because the mother has been invited... Unfortunately you'll just have to make the most of it. The same for the difficulty understanding the social worker, you could ask her to put a summary of any meetings in writing, that might help.

The family practioners thing is a relatively new thing, apparently this qualification will become compulsory for frontline staff soon.

I got him! Xmas day in our house today !

I'm not going to go to a meeting with this "family practitioner" if his mother is there.. defeats the object and is not constructive.. as it was supposed to be to discuss my issues. I will however keep a meeting with the school.. they want to see just me and have a day with him, which is amaking!

I think I'll leave the court order Inforcement? I have him now.. and she has had a formal caution.. if she does it again it will be worse.. what do you think?

Hi there

That's really good to hear!

I would let the family practitioner know you won't be attending... The schools approach towards you is amazing and it will give you an opportunity to develop a positive relationship with them.

I can understand why you're going to leave court action....it's tough and at least she is now compliant. I would advise keeping a record of your contact going forward though.... Do you feel that her taking him out of the country is no longer as much of a risk? You are best placed to weigh up the pros and cons, but we're here to advise if the situation changes.

All the best

Thanks MOJO.. I do think that she will continue to take him out of the country.. and have a horrible feeling they are up to no good as it seems they travel to Europe by car very often.

I'd just like to ensure he's not taken out the country going forward without my knowledge and my OK. What's the best way to do this.

In that case I would apply for a Prohibited Steps Order, as we discussed before. If you Submit it as an emergency application, which is applicable because of the recent caution she received, you won't have to attend mediation. You would do this with the usual C100 form and the £215 application fee.

Once you have the order, you can contact the passport office/customs and inform them that you have a court order prohibiting the mother taking your child out of the country without your permission. In circumstances where you do give permission, you can supply her with a letter stating as such.

I would also speak to the school about previous attendance and your concerns about him being removed.

....thinking about it, there's nothing to stop you from contacting the passport office/customs to tell them that your ex has recently received a caution for removing him without permission and ask if there's any way you can give them their details, so that if they try to leave without your permission and cant provide a letter from you giving permission, that they can be stopped....worth a try.

Fantastic advise.. thank you

You're welcome...let us know how you got on. 🙂

Just spoke to the passport office.. very helpfull. Advised they can put a caveat in place for 12 months, but if I require more information have to get it through the courts. Said just email them and explain everything and they can put a flag on his passport if bothe parents haven't agreed to travel.

The passport office rang; and as she has his passport there is no way they can put a caveat in to stop another being requested etc.. she did however hint at a few things.. saying she couldn't really say.. he's 5 his passport is up for renewal now.. and there is nothing stopping me getting a new passport for him as I have PR.. then putting a caveat in.. what you think ?