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Hi,
I'm new to the site, so hello, I have a few issues which are niggling away at me with regards to where I stand as a parent or what rights I have, if any... any help or advice would be much appreciated!
I have 2 children who are looked after full time by there mother, I'm often unawares to what days they actually attend school/care and which days they are looked after by someone else, should I be entitled to know this for peace of mind so I know where they are on what day?
They have also gone on holiday (in england) with relatives, which I know should't be an issue but yet again sometimes makes me wonder as to whether everything is OK where they are, am I entitled to know about this holiday, prior to a booking and have the option to give my approval or at least talk things through or is the mother entitled to take them wherever she feels like whenever she feels like doing so with out my knowledge? I know I shouldn't have any real concerns but do I have any say in who they are around or where they attend?
Another thing the mother is also now threatening to change there surnames, to her own, or her family name, (she remains a single parent) I presume that I'd have to agree to that before it could go ahead which I'm not inclined to do so. Could she do that without my say so?
So just a little bit unclear on a few things really mainly on what rights a father has, I'm registered on the birth certificates, don't live with them, but contribute finically, and have been seeing them reagually... Although the relationship with the mother is now beginning to get a little bit strained especially given the instance on a change of name? Its starting to make me a little bit paranoid...
Any advice as to where I might stand on the 3 issues mentioned above would really help
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