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50/50 isn't impossible, but in my experience, it's rarely ordered if the other party opposes it.
It's important to be realistic when starting court proceedings. Ask for more than you would like perhaps and see where you get to.
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From my experience of having gone through the family court system over the last 18 months is that 50:50 is extremely difficult although not impossible. The courts rarely order 50:50 division of time, I guess one of the reasons for not doing so would be that the next conflict would then be who claims the benefits. As mentioned previously, 50:50 division of time would be if your ex agrees to it. I don't mean to put you off but just want to be open and realistic, I would always aim slightly higher as you will be knocked down so by all means suggest 50:50 up front.
I am the father of 2 young girls and was awarded 12 nights a month and half of the school holidays, I myself was [censored] bent on equal division of time however, as time has gone on I have started to realise that it's not a case of quantity but more a quality of time with the children.
very good advice. thanks. 50/50 sounds so good on paper. but in reality, the school runs, your work commitments, then dealing with a monstrously difficult ex (in most cases) can be very off-putting. and if she decides out of the blue to move 50 miles away with the kids, then most of the arrangements pretty much go out the window.
and if she decides out of the blue to move 50 miles away with the kids, then most of the arrangements pretty much go out the window.
Exactly what my ex did when I was awarded the time that I currently have. My response was to relocate and move within a few hundred yards of her new home. I appreciate it won't be practical for every father to move
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